Module 16: Traditional Media with Stacey & Lisa

Alright guys, I want to welcome here to the stage today an awesome dynamic duo from Utah. We have Stacey and Lisa. Stacey and Lisa came all the way to Utah just to be with us here today. Stacey I met just about a year ago. We were both working inside of a coaching program.

We were both coaches there and she set herself apart instantly by having just an amazing buoyant personality, lots of energy. She brought passion and energy to her people. But as I got to know Stacey, I became deeply impressed with the way that she would coach and mentor her clients. Stacey is a chef. Food is her passion.

But people are her passion too. And what she's dedicated her entire life to be is to be a chef and a mentor extraordinaire to help people take their lives up to the next level and to achieve their dreams and goals. And she does this through food as a vehicle. It wasn't that much longer that I saw Stacey on stage telling her story at an event. She was talking about how she had pursued her passion and how she got her message out into the world.

Now what makes Stacey unique is that over the last year, she's had more than 60, I'm going to say that again, more than 60 television appearances. So she leverages local media in order to get her message out and to get clients into her practice. And her practice involves slicing and dicing, making food, and doing awesome, awesome, awesome things with her clients. Also Lisa's here. Lisa's her creative director and her PR person.

Lisa was the former PR person for Governor Huntsman in Utah and also helped him with his presidential campaign. Lisa is the equivalent of what you need to find, somebody who's a reliable number two and assistant, a person that you can rely on for feedback, a person who you can help really dial in the details and get things put together so that you can have the results that you want. So with that, let's have another huge round of applause for Lisa and Stacey all the way from Utah. Round of applause. Let's hear it.

There we go. Yay. And I am super glad to have you guys here. We're super excited to be here. We are so excited.

Oh my gosh. Isn't it nice here? It's fabulous. It's like super fabulous. And I'm excited that you guys were able to join us.

And I know that I know you. And I know that our studio audience is just getting to know you, but the people at home don't know you at all. So why don't you tell us a little bit about what got you started on your journey to pursue your passion? So there's a couple of things when we decide to do something we're passionate about, right? They inspire us to change.

So one is either we've suffered enough or we're inspired by something. So what were you suffering from? Well, a lot of hate, a lot of guilt, a lot of shame. And it held on to my body in an extra hundred pounds. It held on to your body in an extra hundred pounds.

Yeah. Or I held on to it. It's really a better term to say. And so I think I was 32 when I finally decided that I am so miserable. And it wasn't in alignment with who I was.

And so I knew I needed to change. And I got to the point where I was like, I am needing an escape, where I reached out to my husband and I said, we have medication in our house that I feel like I'm going to go take. And I'm going to, you know, those things that we try to escape from. But I knew it wasn't right. And luckily I had an incredible support system to say, yeah, that's probably not good.

I'm like, take these away. And his face was like, are you okay? And I'm like, yeah, I'm not. Now I'm not sure this is even okay to ask, but I'm asking anyway, okay? And you don't have to answer.

It's always okay. Is that all right? Yeah. So, but what was the moment when you knew, bring us right back to the moment where you knew that you had to change? What was going on?

What were you seeing and hearing? What? Yeah. In my mind, tons of negative self talk, and I have three kids at that time I had, I think she was nine months old and I could see this vision of me sitting like at the park and just being like the grumpy parent, like go over there and do this and making everybody else do stuff for them to take care of them, that I wasn't going to be playing with them. And I was just this puddle.

Yeah. Was there a moment that really triggered that because a lot of times people will stay, they'll stay in a deep, dark hole for a long time, not realizing what it is, where it is that they're really at. You know, I think I had several instances as I came up and I would, I'm a survivor. So there were things that would get me down and then I'd come back up. Well, that one, I think I, something was coming, an opportunity was coming and I was getting ready for it and I had to make a choice.

But a little while before that, I actually, I was nursing my baby and I was sitting in a dark room and my closet light was on in my house and I saw myself hanging. Oh wow. And I was like, whoa, I'm, I'm not that, like, I'm not that depressed. I'm not that person. And it caught me really off guard.

Like I caught you. Whatever we want to address that negative, those thoughts to, I was like, I caught you. And so then, you know, and then it got better. And then there were times that I was so anxious about my abilities when I became a chef and I got hired at my, like my dream job, a fancy four-star French restaurant. And I don't know if you know, but the James Beard award was just awarded to my executive chef, which is like the Oscar for a chef, right?

Is it? Yeah. And so it was a big deal. And every day I was driving, I'm like, I am a fraud. Do they not know I'm a fraud and I'm not, but those were the voices that kept coming.

And I would call into work, I would call in sick because I was so scared that they would find out who I really was, you know? Well, this is a, this is a really common theme. And just, I want to just pull the audience here real quick and also the audience at home. Have you ever felt like a fraud? Raise your hand if you have.

Okay. So now this is really, really interesting because it's like everybody in, everybody in studio, as, as I work with clients, I've worked with executives, I've worked with people who have made millions of dollars a year from their own businesses. And it is not uncommon to find someone who's super uber successful, has everything going for them. But inside there's a little voice that says, you're not enough. You're not good enough.

You are a fraud. What if they find out? And it sounds like that's the voice that was, that was coming to you. And that you're alone. And you're the only one who thinks like this.

Right. Yeah. How'd you get out of that? Well, I, you know, I have, I have a higher power and I have a religion that I, that I believe in and that I'm active faith in. And we had a challenge to read, read a book.

And I was reading it and all of a sudden as I was getting that inspiration, answers were coming to me. And one of them was to have gastric bypass. And I thought, I am a chef. I am like, no, that is a cheat. And those negative voices came back in of you're just giving up.

I mean, I worked out six days a week. I had been battling with this way all my life. And I, I thought that could be a tool for me. And so once I opened up that was a possibility, of course, I, I asked my husband, what do you think? And he was like, no.

And so I immediately took that as evidence. I shouldn't do that. He was like, that will be hard. And so I revisited it again. And he said, it's going to be hard.

You're a chef. How are you going to be able to do that? And I was like, it's hard now. Right. How is, you know, it's hard now.

And I was ready for help. I was ready because I wasn't ready to give up. Right. And once I decided to do that, it got in a line within a month. Within a month.

Done. Done. And my doctor was like, you're like the best patient I've ever had. I am like whipping around that unit in recovery, just walking around. I was, I was ready to go.

Were you ready to get out of there? I was like, once you've chosen in, you know, that passion, you're like, I have a chance here. I have a new opportunity. Yeah. And so.

Well, tell, tell the audience a little bit about, tell them a little bit about when you found your passion. So when was it that you first came to the, to the moment where you realized this is what I'm going to do with my life? Yep. Oh, well, I, I worked in the medical field for 10 years. You did?

I did. Now your husband is a doctor. He is. Yeah. He's an anesthesiologist.

We met, doing donor phlebotomy. It's, it's, it's magical. It's romantic. Doing blood drawing. Super special.

Super special. When we first met, blood was everywhere. Well, I am. Whatever you want to make up in your mind, it's romanticizing it. Come on.

No. But we met and he was very inspiring to me. He was very driven. He was just like, I was, I was not enough for him in my mind because he was super driven. And I think I didn't know what I wanted to do.

And that was hard because he knew what he wanted to do. And that was cool. I was like, I got to find out what I want to do. Well, we. Let me interject for just a quick second because, so I was her roommate at the time when they started dating and there was this protectiveness that I had over Stacey because I could see that she didn't feel like she was enough.

And so in my mind, of course, I didn't blame her. I blamed him. You know, I was like, he's making her feel not enough. And instead it was, it was those negative voices that we hadn't received those tools to address those yet. And so I, I think that's an interesting evolution because I was super, I was like, because I could sense that, that she did not feel enough when she's amazing and fabulous.

And I know her to be all those things. And he did too. This is a really, this is a really interesting point. When people get to the point where they start feeling hurt, when they start feeling lonely, when they start feeling depressed, when they start feeling like they're not enough, then what the human instinct is to do is to point the finger and to say, it's your fault, it's your fault. And I've got good news and bad news, right?

The good news is it's not their fault. The bad news is it's not their fault, right? It's what's inside. And so you realized that there was something inside of you, but again, what was the moment where you found the passion? The passion.

You take the passion moment. This is the moment where you woke up, right? That's what I was like. Oh, I see what passion looks like. What does that look like?

So I have another picture, perhaps. So this is before. This is before. Oh, she's so cute. That's chubby Stacy.

Okay. Technical difficulties. Oh, look. Okay. So here's what most people look like when they're cooking.

The first one, right? And this is what I feel like when I'm cooking. That's where the passion came. I started creating. Yeah.

I started creating in the kitchen. I would watch cooking shows. And I would do it. And I was doing stuff I'd never done before. Were you doing it on a hobby level or were you doing it?

Yeah, absolutely. Hobby level. Working in the medical field. Hobby level. Supporting my husband.

Victimhood. I can't do what I want to do because I have to support him. Not owning my life. And that's when part of this is we're owning it. This is what we're talking about in this first one.

And so we kind of set up a table of what we're going to walk through today. Okay. So Lisa's going to show you. So, you know, because I'm a chef and I think about in cooking terms. So our table is our foundation.

And that's owning ourself. Okay. So I owned it that, hey, I'm heavy. There's something probably wrong here. Right.

You know, I got to look into that. What are the tools I can find? And then I own my passion here of like, okay, I can do something I love. And so I started, I went to culinary school. I mean, that's a whole long story, but loved culinary school.

But guess what kept coming back to me as I was going to culinary school? Can you imagine? I'm not good enough. What? That's crazy.

How would that ever happen? Every day. And so I had a song I would listen to on my way to school. Ooh, do tell. What is it?

Do tell. It's Defying Gravity. Defying Gravity. Yeah. That is a great song.

Hey, can we like find that song? Maybe it'd be before too long. It would make me cry. Please find the song, Justin. That'd be awesome.

Every day. Every day. And I ended up graduating 4.0, honor student, you know, I'm like, give me everything. I want to rock this. You want to rock this.

I want to rock it. And I loved it. I didn't know what the time I wanted to teach, though. I just was learning about it. But you felt alive when you were doing it.

Oh, absolutely. I mean, really? Look at that. Alive! Who thinks she looks alive?

Give her a big round of applause. Yeah, there you go. Come on, let's hear it for her. Thank you. That's alive.

What are we? Oh my gosh. That is alive. That is alive. What were you cooking there?

To the right. Well, pesto. Pesto. It's what I heard in a movie. Green gravy.

It's all about our words and how we do it, I think. Yeah. See, this is why you have a number two. This is why you have someone who supports you. Okay, so part of owning it is asking people what they see in you if you don't yourself have that vision of yourself.

Right. And I have this incredible friend who's an artist, and his name is Spencer Douglas, and he did my logo, he did my artwork. And so he drew this picture of me, and I was like, whoa, that's pretty amazing. Like, I got a little bit like, that's too much. That's almost vain.

Like, whoa, right? And then those things come when we stretch ourselves a little bit. And he said, I just draw you how I see you. And so sometimes it's valuable to ask other people, because they see. They see what we are.

That's right. What do you see in her? See, I see this amazing, vibrant Stacey that affects people. Like, she walks into a room and she just shines. And that's the amazing part that we all have inside of us.

And we need people around us to support that part. Because I don't think it's unique to her. But I think that she has done a remarkable job of being in tune with it. And being in alignment with herself to be able to shine to other people. And she affects people's lives from little kids when she teaches cooking classes.

Oh my gosh, those little kids, they're so dang cute. And they love her. Like, they listen to her and respect her and learn from her those cooking techniques, which are really, truly mentoring techniques, so much more than they could from their parents in that moment, in their mindset and in their life. And so, you know, those are some of the things that I see in her every day, that she has such a powerful impact on everybody. Stop it.

Thank you. She's like, I'm going to cry. Stop. Stop it. So tell me, just for a minute.

So you found your passion. I found my passion. You're cooking. You're doing this part time. And you had no idea that you were going to do this as a business.

No. In fact, I worked. And so those calls that I made, of I'm not coming to work today because I'm sick or whatever, eventually got me fired. Isn't that weird? When you don't show up to work that you can get fired?

Well, that was my identity. I was a chef. And if I wasn't a chef, who was I? Right. Because I was passionate about it.

So I lost that. And so I didn't want to cook, didn't want anything to do with it for a few years. And that's part of where that darkness came. Right. When you disconnect from your passion, there's a darkness.

There's a void. There was a void. And of course, I got heavier and all that. And so then I found a mentor. Right.

And you and I met in some of these same classes. And I had some tools. And I was able to do that and find passion and find enjoyment and know what to do with those voices. So let's go back into the coaching process, into the mentoring process, right? So as you're going through the process of peeling off the outer layers of stuckness.

Stuckness. I like it. You came to the moment where you'd been dark a couple years in your passion, right? And you decided to go back in. What was the deciding factor that got you back into your passion, that got you moving?

I had somewhat of a vision board. It just happened to be a house. And there was this opportunity for me to build my dream kitchen. Okay, wait. So you had a vision board.

Tell us a little bit about a vision board. How did you use it? How did I use it? We used it in a future plan of my life. Something that I didn't currently have, but I put it out there so I could see it and plan for it.

If you build it, they will come. If you build it, they will come. But tell us a little bit more about your vision board, because I think this is important. We're doing two things right now. Right now we're going to be teaching you a little bit about media, but also we're teaching you how to get unstuck.

Absolutely. Right? Absolutely. She reconnected to her passion. She found a mentor, found a coach, and then she started to use some tools.

And one of the tools was? A vision board. A vision board. So tell us a little bit about the mechanics of a vision board. Not about how it's done right or wrong, but how did you do it?

Okay, so how it looked for me was in the form of what we wanted our life to look like. So we had looked at pictures of things, so visual something. So later I did learn about putting it on a wall. And I happened to have a cutesy pin board thing that I put up there. And I think I glued something on there.

And me in a kitchen, and I was like fit. I was fit. And I was still 120 pounds heavier. But it was a picture of... Was it an actual picture of you?

No, no. It was a model, but I put my face on it. Right, you like chopped off your head and stuck it on. I was like five inches taller. That was fine.

That wasn't important. But then I could see myself. All of a sudden there's something that powerful in that visual. It helped you create a vision. Absolutely.

And when you can create a vision, then you start to be able to see it. And for me, I found that I can struggle with vision because it's unsafe. Right. I can't see it. It's unsafe.

So if I put something out there on a board, then I can see it. And I can see me five inches taller with abs and look amazing. Abs that aren't covered. Not a six pack as my brother would call it. It's a two liter bottle.

A two liter bottle. And so I have this beautiful kitchen. Well, my husband and I were able to create this. How was I going to earn this kitchen? Right.

What do I have to do to earn that? Well, I told the story of I want to teach cooking classes because I want this big beautiful kitchen. In my mind, I'm going, I can't do that. I'm terrified of cooking. People aren't going to value what I have.

I mean, I don't have anything to share with people. Yeah. More of those negative voices of who would want to learn from me? Well, let's do a check in right now. As you're at home listening, have you ever had the thought, nobody will want what I have.

Even if I followed my bliss, if I followed my passion, who would actually listen? Right? In the audience. Anybody ever thought that? Be honest.

Right? It is the voice that affects us all. It's like the standard script that goes in and attacks the head. Right? So you had this happen.

Absolutely. And as you were looking at your vision board, would you look at it like once a week? Once a day? I, you know what? I, it was constant.

Constant? Because it was close. It was like by the side of my bed. Ah, yeah. And so then I would see it.

You know? And sometimes it would make me mad. Would it make you mad? It would make me mad because I'm like, oh, I can't, I can't see that today. I can't see me being that person.

Right. And so, you know, I would hide a little bit in, I can't do that. And I can't do that. I can't do that. Who am I if I'm that?

Well, and part of that is my image has changed quite a bit. And I keep cutting my hair and- Her hair is awesome. Isn't it awesome? Yeah, round of applause. Thank you.

It scares me every time. Does that scare you? It scares me. It scares me. Right.

Well, when it's different, then you're like, well, who am I? Who am I with this haircut? Or who am I with this new blazer or blouse or bracelet earrings? Anything is simple. So I started changing little things like that.

So that conflict in my head, those dualities of an old belief about myself and a new one, they would fight. Right. And so when I gave evidence to the new one, it had, it had, what's the word? Power. Power!

See, this is why I have her. She knows the words. Power, where this one started to, you know, and, and, and little things like that. I mean, you don't have to change a ton, but I just, I keep doing things to scare myself. So I don't hide.

Excellent. So don't hide. You know, what you, what you, what you're talking about here in terms of feeding thoughts reminds me of something. That a that one of my favorite philosophers said he said something like this He said that thoughts have no intrinsic power, but they're parasites that live off of the life energy That we give them Yeah, so what are you feeding? What are you?

What are you feeding? I know right so we've moved on to the second step, right? We've moved on to Let's see our main course Yeah, just be passionate we're you know because we talked about when that passion is gone Yeah, we need to feed on something and so that is our main course is our passion So, how did you feed your passion? I fed it with scaring me Doing things that were you know, when you say scaring you I mean you like went into dark alleys, right? Yeah, mainly no Can we say safe scary safe scary scaring that would not end result boundaries bodily damage or something like yeah you know and whatever and I think Rebel I have a little bit of rebellion in me.

I don't know if you can sense a Little bit yeah, and that's natural sure and I think I would fight against that a lot Yeah, and then I had a mentor tell me you have healthy rebellion It was like healthy rebellion. So my hair is a little crazy My dad is like, what are you doing? Every time I cut my hair because he's a little bit more traditional Is he but I inspire him to I you know, I really believe that he's like, oh you can be in control and shave your head Also little changes like that. Yeah and play playing makes passion ignite So, how have you played in a way to ignite your cooking passions? This is let's go back to before you launch the business, but you're right there.

I Think being okay with not knowing how something's gonna turn out right? I mean do we think when I play? You know what's gonna happen next you just play. There's no cares. You just have fun And so when I started cooking I realized that it was okay if my food didn't turn out But when I had those tools more often than not my food turned out and so I started trusting that but not holding on to Perfection not holding on to perfection.

Yeah. Yeah. How do you let go? How do you let go of perfection when something doesn't go your way? Because that's that's what happens, right?

We get going we start to beat ourselves up just a little bit when things don't go quite the way we hope right How do I let go of perfection? I think let going of expectations, right is huge for that and Give a process or some kind of thing that you do to help you. Let go let go you know, I have what I would call a release technique a release technique if I get to Stiff I guess because I'm not naturally And so I can find like when Lisa and I were driving up to my very first TV appearance I was like nobody talked to me. Nobody talked to me because it needed to be perfect, right? Right.

Well, I was also given information that I had two to eleven minutes Two to eleven minutes like I had never done anything like that I had no idea what two to eleven minutes looked like so I had to let go of some of what that looks like And it was fine. It was fun. And when I got on there I played And so it was fine. But then after I Learned that I needed to play before to let go and to be okay with that So that's what we do now when we drive to our TV appearance. Well, what did you do when you like we're coming here?

How did you play to go? There was so much laughing. There was so much laughing and we had a fight to do it So there was plenty of time. We annoyed many passengers on the airplane Do anything Do anything They were annoyed and we were high-fiving people in the airport because the airport people are grumpy people are waiting and all lines Irritating so we played and we would give them high fives. And I mean and that's so fun to play.

That's a lot of fun Yeah, and then you get inspired new things. So you came to the moment where you went into business Yes, and how did you how did you go from passionate play? To I'm in business. Well, I found I found this awesome mentor and I went through a class that helped me Pick goals So you don't have to have that but pick a goal And one was I found that I love to teach people by being in the grocery store and I find people didn't know They looked lost So I realize so your goal is to like find lost people in the grocery store, they're really easy to find And they would run away from her Don't buy that powdered gravy I will help you and I would write it down on sticky notes and I would find I was like I'm doing this a lot And so there's an application here, you know I can find something that I could possibly earn a living at by doing it what earn money and do something you love. That's crazy so I started making a plan to have a business in my home that I had put a vision board of What did that look like?

What did the image look like on your vision board? What did you put up there? It really was a kitchen. There was a fridge You know what that was really it and there was so much on it now I can't remember what the other things were Yeah, but it was like a cake kitchen and happens now was it ABS inside the kitchen or was it like Kitchen over here in like apps They were on my person Like were you in the kitchen? Yeah, I was next to the fridge.

You were next to the fridge Yeah, I was like cut and paste the model put it next to the I was like in it Yeah, right. Yeah, I think it was a I am ripped but I'm focused on what I'm doing It wasn't like look at these. It wasn't about I Happen to be ripped and I have an amazing kitchen and I you know, right That's awesome. Have you done like an have you done like an ABS workout in your kitchen ever? Amateur we'll have to look at that.

I will I've lunged in my kitchen Yeah, I'm thinking like a fitness boot camp right food first sit-ups on the table sit-ups on the table We need the picture with we need the pic no, no, okay, so distract focus distracted thing Okay, so next picture oh Okay part of my passion. I started teaching kids. Oh my gosh. Ah, so are these are not your children. They're not I do have to I have an 11 year old a five-year-old in the two-year-old of my own, right?

But these I this is a kids camp I did and I How did you gather these kids So I had people who I started teaching adults because frankly Kids were a little bit scary for me kids are scary And I learned that when something is scary and not necessarily hurtful scary. There's something to that, right? I'm resisting it for a reason. There's a benefit there, but there's something and so The moms would ask me. Hey, do you teach kids and I'm like, I don't know I don't know what that looks like, you know, and so I was unsure but I had enough people ask Yeah that I created it and I tell you what it is a blast And so it's a five-day like summer kids camp and I'm I think we did fried eggs.

So they're flipping eggs Oh my gosh, and how look how bored they are They all look like they're I give them nice. Oh my gosh. I know that's a kids camp I want to go to a kids camp like that. So they have they have knives we talk about safety It's you know, it's very structured and it's a blast and you know what more money comes in when I teach children Interesting. Yeah, so tell me how did you weave it?

How do you weave in to your cooking classes? Mindset principles because that's ultimately what you're doing is you're teaching people how to have breakthroughs. Yeah. Yeah, so I mean we know If you have kids they are bombarded with those negative thoughts if you think we have a man they have them and they don't have The tools that we have and so giving them this skill right gives them Self-esteem something to check I can do this Yeah, you know one thing that they say I can flip eggs really well, you know And I boost him up the whole time and I'm talking about amazing Did you know you were good at that, you know, and I never knew that because they probably didn't why would they have ever done? That because most moms and dads don't cook a lot, right?

And so and rarely do they let them make a mess Right, and so it's all about perfectionism when cooking at home I mean not always but and so I let him play you let him play and let him boost Yeah, and it's fun and at the end and we have a celebration And they bring someone and they cook for them. Oh, that's exciting. It's really fun That's fun. So and I keep it small so I can really attend to them and I can see what ones are needing what? So that's that's what I was gonna ask.

So, how do you decide like around mindset principles, right? Cuz yeah, you have like this secret agenda Right. Okay. So your secret agenda is to go in and to be like a force for good Yeah, or what I don't put words in your mouth. What's your agenda?

It is it's to boost them up and not have them feel like I felt right So give them a tool I think part of that too is that she helps them understand that they have skills that they are capable and That it's okay to work hard because sometimes I think they're you know In these next generations like work looks differently, right? And so I think she I mean she helped, you know She they're clean in the every dish that they get dirty and they're they're doing that work But then they're dancing while they're doing it and they're having a good time. And so there's I think a really good Blend of hey, this is really hard work and man I had fun And so I think that's that's a big part of it that I've seen that you've seen So what how do you go and decide what types of mindset tools? To fit into your cooking problem because I bet we got somebody right now that's watching got a couple thousand people live And we're gonna have people over the next, you know weeks and months consuming this product we've got somebody right now who's listening to this who's thinking I love to cook like but I don't get how I cook and I Help somebody change their life at the same time. So I want to put you right in front of one of these classes Let's talk about maybe not this class, but the last group of kids that you went and taught Okay, you're right there yeah, okay and you're are you deciding before you go in what you're gonna teach him or do you wait until You kind of take a pulse on the room and then get a feel for it like tell me a little bit about how that process works out and how you weave in your mindset principles or you're helping to help helping people change their height their head and their heart, right?

So, I obviously have a structure I have, you know We're gonna do eggs this day and we're gonna meet this day We're gonna so there's some sort of a bullet point structure, but it is flexible, right? So sometimes I do a mystery dinner at the end Sometimes if those kids are not that strong that way to they're not going to handle that kind of pressure I pull that back and I and I guide them more so I feel them out as we're as we're cooking and every class is Different right because every person is different that comes and what they need so I it's an intuition perhaps but the more people you come in contact with you can read people and the old the things that I acknowledge about my emotions I can see in other people you can see in other people so when you stop Hiding from them you be aware then you can actually help other people So as you become more aware of what's going on in your head in your heart You can see it in other people when they're in the same place You can assume and then you can ask some questions because you don't want to assume sure too much, but Yeah, and I think she does do a lot of prep work Like you said, you know, certainly if when she walks into the room, then there's an assessment, right? but I think also there's a lot of Pre meditation of hey, you know What who are these kids and like she has their names and she has you know a conscious I? Think approach to that of making sure that she's she's aware of who they are before she walks in the room It sounds like before she walks in the room her preparation really starts by preparing herself Really so you asked me a little bit of what release. Well, not only release techniques I want to know from a routine one of the most common questions.

In fact, we got one yesterday didn't wait, right? Afterwards, what routine do you have? Right? How do you keep your head going in the right direction? And so I want to know a little bit about your routines because I want to know what is it that Stacy does?

to keep herself Mind and heart aligned so that she can go out and help because one of the things that I at least for me I can speak for myself when I first started helping people Other people's emotions would sometimes get poured into me, right? And for those of us that are real sensitive to that We like pick up other people's stuff really fast and you can take it on Right. Absolutely. So how is it and I had to learn early? I'm in fact, I don't I haven't told the story often but I was brand new to helping people I had just started seeing clients in my office and I had a really difficult client session and afterwards I was driving north I live about a half an hour north from my office and I started to drive and as I drove I drove past my house an hour and a half Into Idaho and I wasn't till I arrived in Pocatello that I realized that I was well It was right before Pocatello.

My wife called me and she's like, where are you? I'm like, I'm driving I was just completely out of it, right? I didn't realize that was like yeah total unfocused I was like in outer spaceland because I had not learned I learned how to help other people But I hadn't really learned but I needed to work on my own self to be able to clear myself out So my question is back to you. How do you clear out your head in your heart as you're in there, right? Do you work with people?

Yeah, so, Clearing out part of it is physical. Okay, okay Be it a walk in the morning be it ten sit-ups be something physical and For me, it's huge to like go out in the morning before the Sun has come up. Yeah, and I if they're stars bonus Then it's for me. I'm like I see that in a way of blessings or attributes or accomplishments whatever I need those stars to be to kind of fill me up nice as I use those and Music is huge So I'll listen to music and I can just engulf in that feeling whatever it is And I'd be very careful about what I listen to right very careful. So you fill your head with really dark Negative music, right?

Right. Yes, absolutely And you know what? I am a funny person and in that rebel side can say well I want to listen to what I want to listen to but I have found that I do have a really sensitive spirit That I have to be careful with what I put in it movies or anything. It's I if I see a scary movie I am scared. Yeah, maybe not then but later.

I'm really affected by it So I've learned to be in tune with that But yeah music is huge some form of exercise and positive up with the music not to give you positive Music. Yes so whatever works for you and even if it's me pay attention the words read the lyrics before because the beat is very tricky it is Tricky it can be like an up. Yeah, like an upbeat with a down message Definitely driving those words deep into the subconscious mind. Absolutely. And yeah, I'd that could go on a whole hour on that But yeah, I'd be very aware of what I put in my body.

Yeah that way too and so Absolutely food and it guess what? I'm not perfect. What? So huge forgiveness, right? Okay.

And so then there is a tool that I use for forgiveness. Okay, and tell me about the tool Thanks for asking I'm gonna tell you anyway Forgiveness, so I have a method of either speaking to them not in person because that can be harmful Okay, like another person like another person. So all you know, so let's say Lisa said I really don't like your husband And so I needed to handle that with her but I couldn't handle that with her because there's too much energy Right, you know and so I would I would go on my walk or be in my car or somewhere where there's not another person and I can Just let it out and see like and I'll ask permission even that might sound a little strange But I asked permission to speak with her right like hey, is this okay? And then I kind of wait for an answer and sometimes I get a yeah, you know So you imagine the person I imagine them and then sitting in my seat or sitting with me Yeah, it's like oh man, you know when you said that kind of sucked that hurt my feelings. I heard my feelers You know and I just I say what I and because it's hard to be mean to people I don't know for me it is and so I had and sometimes we take that on as well I can't be mean to them.

So I'm gonna take on the hurt myself Yeah, and so this is an opportunity to let it out without hurting anyone right and getting it out super safe ways I'll just let a safe way and nobody gets hurt and I'm not a huge physical like throw and break things But you can a lot of men benefit from throwing things or being aggressive that way. Yeah, not at people, right? People Go break dishes go to a throw something yell scream, you know And I live in a neighborhood that my parents live on one side of me and my brother lives on the other side of me Yeah You do not yell and cuz you know, sometimes it can be family that you're yelling at right and so I don't do that But anyway, so that works for me is just having a conversation and then I say will you please forgive me for those feelings that? I have right and it's a full circle Kind of a thing. And so that really helps kind of Free up relationships because that's huge of being clear is working on relationships working on relationships So identify relationships where they're stuck emotions and then you imagine the person speak your mind and then you go through the process Forgiveness by verbalizing by verbalize.

So here's our next one is Create relationships awesome. And that what was our that's our side dish side dish Turn beverages just for okay. Okay. Okay, that's great So working on relationships is really It's a big deal sure because the people in our lives are what? Creates our opportunities, right, you know And so I can't have what I have in my business without another person there I can create food, but you know how it is to cook for yourself.

There has to be a client There has to be and you know when you're cooking it's usually for someone, right? I mean, it's you know, you heard people all the time say well, I can't cook. It's just for one now, right? There's no fun in that, you know, and so it's people are what create our full lives. And so it's really fun Oh, this is good.

It's good. It helps us. It helps us go forward Who's this? This is Chelsea and she is a producer at Park City TV and she really gave me one of my first starts on TV Well, I was gonna ask you about that because you've had like 60 some appearances. Yeah, how many of those right 60?

62 I think at this point but in just over a year, right? So, I started doing classes But then I knew I needed a free event to get people in because they want to test something they want to sample it Right, and that was exhausting that was depleting too high because I would spend so much money on these open houses And I didn't always get the people I wanted so I'm a person in my life Gave me an opportunity to go on TV to represent a restaurant that I didn't even work for. So were you How did this tell me a little bit more about how this happened because sometimes Like accidental things will just open up a door But still it's following some sort of pattern and so we have a lot of people out there that might want to leverage Traditional media to go out and promote their passion based business. But the question is like So tell us first the story about how you did it and then a little bit about how it how it morphed I think that'll help out a lot. So I had my So Lisa's husband owns a restaurant and they promote Ogden restaurant week up in Utah and Park City gives them a spot and they said will you go on for us to represent our Restaurant.

I'm like, I don't even work for you, but that would be fun And she called me and said would you like to be on TV? So were you guys now you've been roommates before but were you working together at that point I was I was helping her kind of crew, you know start I knew her passion and where I'm going and the question I asked her was is Being on TV on your vision board and there was a Over the phone Yeah, what if I say yes and that's what I heard cuz I hear the words that she doesn't say as she does for me right, right and so it was a It was like cuz it should be Cuz I have a spot for you and she's like then yes I'm like perfect and we'll move from there But it was you know I think that's part of acknowledging who we are and owning ourselves kind of you know that if we own Our passion and then if we you know act on it, then we're able to acknowledge to other people Hey, this is what I'm passionate about and yeah I'd like to go on TV for your restaurant because you don't have anyone to you know They mean like it because I've been on TV a lot of times many times So it wasn't that I couldn't have gone on and done this spot It wasn't a we didn't have someone to do it necessarily, you know what I mean? But for me, I was like this is a great opportunity for her and I didn't have That need you know what I mean? So I think that there are those people who are out there looking around saying hey who can help me do this because I don't Need to do it. Right?

So well and all of us have strengths and have weaknesses, right? So I can have a string that Somebody else doesn't have I could have a weakness where I need to fill a string, right? And so I could go out and search for somebody I could open up a massive door for someone just because we have the right Relationship over the right time, which is another reason to treat everybody Really well, so true because over years I've realized you don't you never know who you're talking to and even though you might know Who you think they are today? You don't know who they are tomorrow That's true, right So huge opportunities came up. So this came up as an opportunity from a friend now some people would go on TV and totally vomit and never get invited back and That was why they said two to eleven minutes And that's what I told her.

I was like, they're there. They don't know how you're gonna do something if it's two minutes So this is my advice to those of you who are looking to work with traditional media Be conscious of how you appear before those people because you know if people give a bad interview if you're answering Yes, and no to open questions That reporter doesn't have anywhere to go and then they cut to commercial and you're out and you're going right? Yeah, right and you show up on the never again. Yeah What do I do with that person and so there is a lot of prep that goes into to those Traditional media interactions because they need something, you know, they need your passion They bring a little bit of energy and some good questions, but they need you need the passion and energy So, how do you put how did you prepare yourself for your first for this first TV? Well, I freaked out a little bit, but I said yes first So what did you freak out and then say yes, or do you say yes and then freak out more?

Okay. Yeah, right I was scary. I acknowledge that this was new scary unknown, right? But I said, oh that's my vision board, you know, and sometimes you get stuff that you didn't put on there But it's in here, right? It didn't get on the paper, but it's in there.

So Yes, and then I freaked out a little bit more, but I have a great support system So her husband came over the night before and he said let's walk all through this. Well, he's a huge detail guy, right? I am NOT I am like go by the fly, you know, just like she kind of wanted to like punch him I was like you need to get out of here. I love you He was only trying to help but that was me learning what I needed to do to function in my passion Yep, but he gave me structure getting which I needed. Yeah, and what would tell us a little about the structure?

What did that look like a lot of information? It was steps lots and lots of steps of oh This is what it looks like when you go on and this is what you say and this is what you'll do And I think part of it is the recipe was complicated I mean it wasn't but I had tons of spices and I'm like, I'm have to memorize all those names It was too much for me. So I had to be okay to not do it somebody else's way With respect right find my own path So he started to help you in the preparation phase But then you had to like ultimately like too much information much information. I'm gonna do it my authentic way yeah, and show my he respected that of course, of course, you know, and so we got up there and they and I had done some preparation video type of You've done you've done video before video before, you know, I kind of gotten more comfortable part of the camera Well, let's go here for just a minute. So you got a brand new person media is on their mind They say eventually I want to leverage the media How do you get good on camera so that when you show up you're not an idiot?

Most people are not gonna like this answer. Yeah, but you watch yourself and do it you feel something and you watch it. How often? How man as often as you want, but I'm mine was once a week once a week But yeah, and sometimes more a minute two minutes ten. It was Three minutes three minutes bought three minutes bought and learning how to formulate your thoughts not have notes because I mean don't look down at notes, right you're gonna completely Just disengage them.

Yeah way, you know I think it's also learning about your quirks learning about like how you hold your eyes when someone else is speaking How you know, so not only are you gonna do monologues because usually with traditional media, you're not just talking You're not the talking head you're speaking with someone and so you need to enroll somebody else to do that with you So that you see, you know, are you going like this? While they're talking, you know Like what are you doing? Yeah But that is true you start to realize It's very different to speak into a camera. Yes yourself very different because I love people I want to play I mean you're so much fun to talk to you and you do a good job. Thank you And but that is a very different format.

So find out what format works for you, right? Maybe you can be both you just have to practice Yeah Do them all as a practice because I mean like when I was going into the PR side of the business I've always been at the reporter. It was easy to be the reporter, right? I had to transition that and be it, you know play a different part because that's where we're kind of all doing right is we're playing a part and So I think that's a really important part of you gotta practice You got a practice really does make perfect And yeah, and you find out what you do really well and what is charming and what you think is charming is maybe not So charming, you know, there's different things ask someone to watch it and tell you what they think right and be open to their feedback Yeah Please tell me I'm okay But that doesn't serve you right, you know I and so I think our thing was tell one good thing and one thing that you could improve on or you know, right perhaps Colors on you, you know little things like that. Well, this is my favorite shirt I didn't know that brown didn't look great on me right things that you may not even think of your background Do you know you start to notice?

Well, it's just home. It looks normal to me, you know It's and seeing it from a different view of somebody else is huge. It's it's that's awesome So I practice that you practice I practice watching myself and watching my tics and things like that of nothing. not and you know Picking your nose in public. It's so hard.

That's like one of my biggest thing You know Problem, but you know also smiling and it's oddly uncomfortable to smile a lot a lot. Yeah My cheeks actually hurt after I present a lot and I still probably don't smile quite as much as I would like to yeah So we should practice frowning How's it look guys I know smiling Does that feel better and look how all of us? Bodies, right? Yeah up. Yeah, and it's such a different feeling it and when you smile people have that same