2015-07-28 The 9 ways Negativity in Facebook Destroys

Hi, this is Kevin Sousa. It's time for a heart-to-heart talk. I have been guilty of negativity in Facebook Which destroys a lot of things and so I'll be the first one to admit that I fed into Comments I've even made posts that are negative and they're not good folks. I'm gonna talk about nine ways negativity in Facebook destroys Okay, and again, I am guilty of the same thing But at least I'm aware of the fact of what negativity can do and I'm working on myself To improve that and I hope that you too will admit some of the things that I'm about to cover here What's the first way? Negativity in Facebook destroys.

Well, the first way is denial denying that you're negative Denying that healthy debates are healthy. They're not they're hazardous to your mental health okay, and those around you but denial is number one denying the fact that Talking negative about something and feeding into that hurts. Oh yes, it does and we all including myself need to be aware of that and To admit that and stop denying the fact that any and all Negativity is not good for anyone So denial is the number one way that negativity in Facebook destroys number two is Negativity goes viral. Let me explain what I mean recently in the 2015 Super Bowl there was a big Controversy with a lot of things regarding one of the teams my home team the New England Patriots And I'm not going to get into the negativity however, the news and the media Will they love this? Program people's minds begin people love feeding into that and then they love talking about.

Yeah, they did this and they did that Cheaters and I and you know all kinds of negative comments and people feed into it and feed into it and feed into it and Spread it and spread it. So when somebody posts it goes viral Doesn't it? Okay Why because people love negativity the news and the newspapers and the media of this world has programmed the human psyche to love Negativity and to feed in it and to look like this while you're you know living, you know Everybody's face is either this way or this way. Okay, that's the media's fault It's also parents fault and school as well. I mean, let's face it Negativity is what spurs everybody on to say their piece and be quick to argue with someone in the moment Somebody is opposed to that which you say you jump on it.

And that's what you do in Facebook posts. That is so poisonous Okay, because negativity goes viral and negativity only hurts Positivity only heals and helps you all agree that Positive and negative which one is better for you Come on common sense dictates being positive is better, right? And so feeding into that negativity brings me to point number three it poisons our attitudes Okay, the only thing over which we have absolute control in our lives is our attitude How we react or respond to things that are happening in life, right? the world loves to respond negatively and they all love to respond to others who are negative and feed into it and that's where that Frenzy starts to happen and a quick to argue with people they love with all their hearts because for some reason the news and the media and The public school systems and unfortunately because of that programming parents of our society have all Led us to be negative in life And those few who choose the positive route who choose to be aware of that negativity even though they are guilty of it, too Right are the ones who succeed in life and all the rest of you Yeah in the negativity So it really you know poisons our attitudes and our attitude at the beginning of a task and at the end of the task and during the task are what's important to Get things done and to accomplish success and happiness who can be happy and angry at the same time nobody Right, and there's just a ton of negative emotions But the fourth way that negativity in Facebook destroys is that it attracts Negative you post something negative I guarantee you somebody's right on it with you and then somebody likes it and somebody shares it and then somebody else makes a comment about it and all of a sudden you got a whole comment thread going of people that are debating that negativity and Who are subscribing to that negativity? It's amazing how negativity attracts negativity the same way that positive Attracts positive when you're positive in your Facebook posts you are going to get people who Respond in a positive fashion.

So just as negative attracts negative Positive attracts positive become aware of it. Remember number one denial. Don't deny it. Okay What else does? Negativity do when in posts and Facebook it makes you lose focus on what's important in life It really does because as you're feeding into and contributing to that negativity you lose focus and if you have goals in life and you start being negative then your Mindset is negative and to achieve any goals in life You need to maintain a positive mindset by continually feed your mind with positive things from books that are positive and motivational Inspirational from audios the same way from videos that are the same way and from associating with those kind of people But when you read things and put things in your mind and allow the news to feed your brain with negativity Then the more negative you have in your brain the more negative you'll be The more positive in your brain or the more you're feeding your brain with positive the more you'll become aware That you know what?

This is not positive. This is negative and it's hurting my attitude to succeed in life Okay, and so you lose your focus You know the way that negativity and Facebook destroys is that it actually is a recipe for mediocrity and failure Negativity in general is a recipe for mediocrity Poverty and failure. It just is People are amazing. They will justify Why they're not achieving things in life with their negativity It's absolutely amazing they refuse to take control of their attitude in their mind Which is the only thing in the world they can control and they succumb to the negativity of mediocrity and failure You know, and so that's the sixth way that negativity and Facebook destroys Okay, what else does it do? This is sad.

It destroys friendships, you know There were so many harsh negative comments in my posts after the winning of the Super Bowl 2015 that it's unfortunate a couple of friends I had to block because they were poisoning my posts with their negativity now You could say I don't care if people get negative in my posts. Well, that's negative in and of itself okay, and so it's quite obvious because if you look at what people post in Facebook, you can see what their character is or More importantly what they would like to aspire their character to be because initially everybody's negative Okay, we got slapped the moment we were born And all of our lives don't do this. Don't do that. Don't do this Yeah, our parents were protecting us from the negatives, but don't don't don't know you can't do that You can't do this and our minds got programmed with you can't do this. You can't do that, didn't it again?

It was for our own well-being. They loved us. They don't want us to touch the stove for obvious reasons, but because Positivity is not a main focus in this world. It's unfortunate and the friendships that are destroyed Because of the negativity in Facebook is just ridiculous folks Okay, it's just crazy. It's so easy.

It really is so easy to maintain Positivity in your posts it really is and you will find more positive posts in my Facebook than negative ones Like I said at the beginning of this video. I'm just as guilty as oh How do you get caught up in that frenzy of negativity? How does that happen? Simple all of our lives we've been programmed with negativity I stopped watching news and reading newspapers years and years ago and know what someone said to me course somebody negative Well, how are you gonna know what the weather is if you don't watch the news? Okay, trust me people talk.

We know what the weather is going to be I don't need to read a newspaper or watch the news on TV about the weather because everybody talks about it Okay, so that's the seventh way Negativity and Facebook destroys the eighth way. Okay, is that it causes arguments? People love to argue Isn't that sad? rather than agree or Agree to disagree and make a nice comment back Human nature based on their programming in this negative world tend to want to argue and fight back Okay, and that's what negative posts do in Facebook You can say something negative and it's gone. But when you post it in Facebook, it's there It's written and people see it over and over and over and over again Okay, and what happens when people see it over and over and over again people start to argue with each other and Friendships again number seven it destroys friendships It's really sad how negativity does that in Facebook?

And what it does as you read that negativity over and over and over again Just like as you watch the news every day or read the newspapers every day Okay, or listen to negative talk every day is it programs your subconscious mind which is number nine Okay, the ninth way that negativity in Facebook destroys. I Have a glass of red ink and a glass of water Now if I pour some of the water into the red ink It's going to make the red ink a little lighter, isn't it? And then if I keep pouring some more in and more in eventually you could almost Make it light pink okay, but it'll always be there the red is the negativity of the world and the clear water is the Positivity you cannot get rid of the negatives in your mind That's the sad part because once they're planted they're there for life But what you can do is you can dilute the negativity how first by becoming aware Stop denying The vanilla first point I talked about that negativity is actually hurting you and hurting those around you in your Facebook posts Okay, that's number one number two instead. Let your positivity go viral instead of negativity going viral Right because it poisons the attitude. What is that's number three.

What does positive? Post do what a positive post do they? Help grow your attitude They feed your attitude and they help other people and attracts those who want to be positive in life Right and that's number four you want to attract the positive people in your life That's why I have five thousand friends of fifty three thousand followers in Facebook You attract more people with the positive than you do with the negative Because the negative people stay in their own little world and they refuse to look at anything that has possibilities Okay, they'd rather stay in that little world and lose their focus. Oh, well gee that was number five, wasn't it? You stay focused when you're positive You don't lose focus Positivity is a recipe for success Just like negativity is a recipe for failure.

Okay, and that was number six number seven You build friendships when you're positive not destroy them when you're negative Number eight instead of causing arguments people tend to agree with each other and work in harmony and work together when they post positive Things isn't that amazing? Okay, and then of course number nine programming a subconscious mind You want to be able to program your subconscious mind with positive thoughts which dilute the negativity and then share that with the world? Okay, so I gave you nine ways that negativity in Facebook Destroys but the opposite of those nine ways that positivity in Facebook Builds you want to focus on and so I had to get this off my chest be positive choose the positive side of everything and start to become aware of your reactions to things and you too Can build yourself and build others. So this is Kevin Sousa. I hope you make it a wonderful day