Do Dating Men Like to be Chased?

Restored from the Empower Network archive (2011–2017), lightly edited to meet our current advertising standards. Views are the original author’s.

You Ask Should I Chase a Man…Is the Answer YES or NO?

There was a time when a woman would say, “No.”

But today is a new era—the modern woman asserts, “Today we date to a new beat.” We no longer sit on the sidelines and wait. If we see someone we want, we should feel free to go after him.

“I can be the aggressor. I can ask a man for his phone number, or ask him out for a date,” they shout. “Yay, yay, rah, rah!”

Yes you can…but does that mean chasing men is the best way to find love? Or are you, in fact, lessening your chances?

How to Attract a Man

The truth is that chasing men is the number one demon of all dating mistakes.

Men don’t like being chased. Oh, he might readily respond. I mean what man turns away what he feels might be easy sex–it’s in his DNA. Often shortly after the conquest he’s moving on-and you’re history. Or maybe after the date he just isn’t interested in you as a person and so you feel rejected.

And that’s because men like to PURSUE — It’s in his DNA.

Let’s talk about human nature. About men and the challenge. Men love a challenge. Men love sex. And when a man meets a woman he’s attracted to, his first thought is sex. The challenge is how to get it and how soon he can get it. This is his thinking before he gets to know you as a person, before he appreciates your value, and before he considers any future with you.

That tells you to be slow to approach a man. Let him seek you out.

Oh, you can send signals, like a smile to let him know you’re interested, then let him take it from there. We call that playing games. And the sooner women learn the ground rules and master skills of the game, the better off she is. It’s cat and mouse. It’s hide and seek. It’s the hunt and the chase.

A man’s DNA stays consistent—It doesn’t change

It’s a man’s nature to pursue. He wants to pursue. He needs to pursue. His nature to pursue doesn’t change. When either the woman letting him win too easily, or usurping his role as she begins to chase, takes the chase away, he doesn’t like it. And he doesn’t respond favorably.

A woman has the best chance to find love by not making dating mistakes like chasing men to find love.

A woman’s job is to create the opportunity to be chased…

And let the man pursue until you let him catch you–those are the winning rules of the game!

My name is Donna Patterson and I ask: Are you tired of chasing men? Multiple partners and stalemate dates going nowhere when what you really want is marriage? If so, get off the no-win merry-go-round of uncommitted love to instead discover the critical decisions necessary to establish committed Love FIRST, leading to genuine love and a husband as your best friend!

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