Help! Save My Marriage Today
Restored from the Empower Network archive (2011–2017), lightly edited to meet our current advertising standards. Views are the original author’s.
The Right way to handle marriage conflict
Now at first glance, don’t get yourself twisted up and mad as a goat at what is presented here. If you read for content and listen for effective instruction, you may learn how to save your marriage!
It’s when couples try to navigate the mysterious waters of marriage with their own conflicting ideas that the waters of marriage become muddy leading to divorce abandonment.
I know, I’ve been there, done that. I was in a marriage where we battled over practically everything, but mainly when we boiled it all down, it was about who was in charge?
Can two people captain the same ship? When each had conflicting ideas, whose idea should prevail? Our differences became a battle of wills.
We shouted at each other with angry words. Of course it shut down communication. We each walked away from the battle enraged leaving the marriage to flounder.
That’s when I desperately began to wonder how to save my marriage and how to stop the inevitable divorce and the abandonment that comes with divorce.
The Simple–but NOT Easy Answer
What I learned was simple. Simple but not easy because I balked at the notion of “order” in marriage–but, much like there is order in any successful business-there is order in marriage. In any business there is the Manager, and the support staff.
The marriage arrangement is structured similarly. In marriage, the husband assumes the manager role; his wife and children are his VP and support staff. His wife works with him; she doesn’t take a counter-position nor fight in opposition to him. She doesn’t compete with him.
That means that when major decisions need to be decided and husband and wife differ, the wife will support the manager’s final decision.
This arrangement works because husband and wife play complementary roles that are based on unselfish love. This is love that looks for the good and works for the best interest of all in the family.
It is the type of love that rarely fails. It’s agape’ love based on principles of what is in the best interest of your mate.
Why Women Protest this Arrangement to their peril
Many women protest this arrangement and demand that men and women are equal… And that’s right!– men and women ARE equal.
Equal but different. Saying different, doesn’t mean inferior. One role is not better than the other–simply different.
The fact is numerous studies show that male and females are born with a different set of ‘instructions’ built into their genetic code. That’s fact. Each role is designed to complement the other–two working together in harmony as one.
The wife’s role, then, is to act as a complement to her husband, assisting him in carrying out his responsibilities toward the family. She would work in unity with him, respecting the decisions he makes.
Do you see how this working together with love and respect would cause marriage to thrive?
Do you understand that a man blessed with a wife who supports him would never consider divorce abandonment?
Do you understand how through working together in harmony you can save your marriage starting today?
Discover how marriage works best. It’s by discovering then practicing the magic of ‘Agape’ Love to make your marriage the best it can be. That said, you’ll never have to worry about how to save your marriage today or any other day.
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