Setting Boundaries: 6 Powerful Steps to Take
Restored from the Empower Network archive (2011–2017), lightly edited to meet our current advertising standards. Views are the original author’s.
All Successful People are Great at Setting Boundaries – Key 3 to Magical Selling.
In a nutshell, it means letting people know what you will and will not do.
This post is part seven Key 3: Setting Boundaries in a series on 5 Keys to Magical Selling. Part 1 is A Better Way , Part 2 is Short Stories that are Magical, Part 3 is Video Storytelling: How I Turned My Life Upside Down, Part 4 is An Unbelievable Story – How We Met Our Daughter after 20 Years, Part 5 is Positive Thoughts and Part 6 is Being Flexible: ‘Ave a Go Ya Mug’.
1.) Turn off the background crap in your life.
I’m not talking about fun things here. Go do your fun things, things you really enjoy.
Go listen to music and dance. Some people like singing and listening to the radio.
Well great, put it on. Right?
We’re not talking about that, we’re talking about not setting boundaries and wasting your creative energy on bullshit.
Which is what most of your creative energy is probably going on if you’re not getting the results you want.
Most people’s creative energy is tied up holding on to negative belief systems and patterns that they have held onto their entire life.
You have to learn over a period of time to let go of that garbage in order to move on in this life.
Video – Setting Boundaries
2.) When setting boundaries, you need to set a very clear intention of where you want to be.
Setting boundaries is covered in great detail in Video 1 of the 15K Formula.
It’s also covered in the Costa Rica Masters course, and in the Costa Rica Intensive.
It’s also in many Inner Circle audios. It is THAT important!
If you do not have a clear intention, perfectly clear, of what you want to accomplish in your life and what you want to accomplish now – I’m not talking about goal setting, I’m talking about being clear with the focus of your energy and setting boundaries.
You need to be focused on what you are there trying to accomplish and the more clear it is, the better, if you want to create results. Why?
3.) Well number one, you can’t feed your mind with the right kind of information if you don’t know what you want.
How can you possibly put the right stuff in your brain if you can’t even define what you want?
Some people write to me, they ask me, “Why are you doing this business?” If you can’t answer immediately, then you don’t know. And you are just making it up on the spot.
You gotta know why you’re here.
And you gotta be setting boundaries and definitions of what you will and won’t do.
David Wood once made a decision that a lot of people would say that at that time would have dramatically hurt his income.
When he started doing network marketing again in 2009, he said he would not under any circumstances do a 3 way call ever again, unless he gets tricked into it!
It has happened once or twice in the last 4 years and that’s it.
Someone hit him up on Facebook. He had joined a previous company Dave was in and said “Dave what do I have to do to get you on the phone with me and my prospects?”
Dave said, “Well nothing, cos I won’t get on the phone with your prospects, I want to teach you how to close them yourself.”
Right?
4) Replace time wasting activities with productive strategies.
Dave replaced something he hated (3 way calls) with a strategy that made people fight to get closer to him and that works better and creates way better results.
Do NOT do anything that you hate and can pay someone to do who could do it to 70% effectiveness of your way of doing it.
So even if there is a menial task that you could do right now to get it done, decide to let go of it and send an email for someone else to do it, even if it takes longer to get done.
In the beginning of our business, we have to answer all emails. And answer every phone call and every request that comes along.
Later, as you get a bigger team, you have to set boundaries about what emails and calls you will respond to.
You have to make decisions and set boundaries in life guys, and if you don’t set clear intentions, that’s impossible to do.
For the top leaders in Empower Network, it’s not all about money any more. It’s about helping as many people as possible. It’s about helping people create breakthroughs.
5.) We talk about money all the time in Empower Network because when people get more money, it tends to change everything in their life.
You hear people all the time coming out with stupid retarded bullcrap like “Money doesn’t buy you happiness”.
How do you even know, you’re broke!
You don’t know if it does or doesn’t, you can’t judge that.
When was the last time you had lots of money? Unless you have had lots of money, you have no knowledge of that, so stop saying stupid things.
Now, it might be true that money doesn’t buy you happiness, but neither does being a broke asshole.
You have to set clear intentions. Are you consciously setting boundaries? As well as knowing what you want, you also have to know what you don’t want.
6.) It’s important to know what you’re willing to do and not willing to do.
Dave is not willing to do 3 way calls because it disempowers you to close prospects yourself.
You will get much better results if you listen to training, practise some scripts and apply it yourself.
Maybe if you learn how to do it, you’ll get better results on your own.
If you do something for someone for free that they can either do themselves or learn to do themselves, it 100% disempowers them to move on in their life.
It’s more empowering for people to struggle and get their own breakthrough.
That’s why it’s called The Empower Network … D’OH!
Til Tomorrow
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