Quiet Power The Introvert

I’m sitting in a crowded room watching, listening and wondering. So much buzz. Laughter, conversation a whirl of activity and interaction. I’m quietly observing and waiting but for what?

Nothing really, I’m just taking it in, processing information putting my inner power to work. I’m not anti-social or conceded. I am an Introvert.

I’m not talking about being shy that’s something different. Shyness is about self-esteem. It’s about worrying what other people think, feeling anxiety about interactions. I do know about being shy too but it’s something I can change. You cannot change being an introvert, it’s a part of your core personality.

So what are the some of principle traits of an introvert?

• They are energized by alone time
• Are adept at subtlety
• Thoughtful
• Think before they speak
• Are good listeners
• Tend to have deep relationships with a small circle friends

If you can relate to these traits then you are an introvert. Depending on what study you look at anywhere from 25%-40% of the population are introverts. With so many introverts it’s surprising that there’s so much social bias about introverts. How many times have you been told you need to smile more or that you’re too quiet or you seem distant?

I was out one night and asked “Why do you look miserable all the time, you should smile”. (First of all thanks), I said I do smile I just don’t walk around with a smile on my face all the time. If I did people would just think I’m crazy. He actually got it.

Being an introvert is not a handicap. You can accomplish whatever you set out to do by being yourself. If you do a search on famous introverted celebrities you’ll find everyone from Barbara Streisand to Bill Gates. Remember that introversion has nothing to do with confidence. You can be as confident as the most outgoing extrovert and you can also be an extrovert who’s shy and lacking in self confidence.

Can an introvert succeed in the business world?

Absolutely. You don’t need to hide behind the computer either. You just need to plan. Networking events can be mentally exhausting for an introvert. So set your goals before you get there. What would you like to get out of the event specifically. New contacts? How many? For what purpose? You get the idea. Make the most of your time.

If you’re an introvert, celebrate. You have powers that just happen to be on the inside. Recognize that you have strengths and play to those strengths. You are a thoughtful leader, a trusted confidant and a generally cool person. You even like to have fun, you’re an introvert not a hermit. You don’t need to change who you are just understand yourself.

Originally posted at janetnapora.com