One Badass Released Dad, Now More Empowered Than Ever!….
Restored from the Empower Network archive (2011–2017), lightly edited to meet our current advertising standards. Views are the original author’s.
One Badass Released Dad,
Now More Empowered Than Ever!….:-)
As a Dad…ever been faced with your nightmare?….of the possibility of not being able to take care of your family?…to watch your dreams disappear down the drain?….Or have the J.O.B. (Just Over Broke) disappear and also the plans for good schools for the kids, improved opportunity for the kids, the house, a remodelling, an adventurous holiday, a charity supported, a day out…..whatever It Is/Was….gone by one fell swoosh of a pen…. or just as bad a phone call, or worse – an automated voicemail or Tweet…. You’re Fired!
Don’t Get Stuck!
I know that there are parents within nuclear families, who are single parents….male and female….Moms and Dads…who have lost those dreams! And all very tragic stories, to see in the eyes of grown-ups…and children….people with the look of despair in their eyes…anguished, tormented…broken!…..I feel you! – I know what you are and/or have been going through…. I know!…. I lost almost everything….I say almost because I refused to lose my family, and that’s huge….Because, you see, I felt I had so let them down….that I had failed them – that the only thing I could do to make ‘It’ right was to remove the cause of the problem, remove the toxic element that caused …. All this pain and upheaval….
….And so what did I also do….I went after myself and broke myself down…beat the sh** out of myself….removed myself bit by bit….I became Unavailable!….I couldn’t change it so I figured I needed to remove the pain, or what was causing It…Me.
And yet….I got it all wrong…..I was wallowing in my own Sh**, I was filled self-pity, and yes, I was hurting my family…terribly….but the answer was not to disappear whether inside or actually to physically leave…to run away…or to quit! – So when I stumbled over that one…as tough as everything was…I refused to quit on them…..to remove my Fatherhood, my parenting, my value, my experience… nor my power….I chose Us!….
My kids, my wife…my extended family, my friends deserved better….they deserved to have the real me…all of me in their lives….not wasted on some self-loathing crap…So why was I doing it?….I guess I was afraid, I felt guilty, I didn’t feel worthy of their love and trust…
Bullshit! – Just for losing a game plan according to someone else’s game and someone rules – what’s up with that?…If I carried out my retreat…the They won…The bastards that they are , the ones who contributed to the collapse of a good thing…and yet I too caused/attracted it my life…. I was a part of the failed dynamic… a dynamic by it’s very nature is interactive – And all that said – It was way passed due to stop the blame game, to wake up and get back on the horse and ride to better pastures…simple as that…
Reach Out!
And so I have! I have connected with other positive minded people who are at various legs of their life journeys….some very financially successful and others less, some more spiritually awakened than others and so on, but neither here nor there…there is a common ground between them of Life In An Empowered World!…A better world than it has become recently, and not to go further into the negatives, but merely to note that these realities are there to be changed…And that is what Dave & Dave set out to do, first with themselves, then their Team Members and now a growing community of 80,000 + empowered people…you know Badasses who are intent on a better way of life here on planet Earth.
And you know what…Me Too! – I’m congruent with that, I’m aligned with them…I’m all-good with that…. and so simple done….Create Compelling Content, Add Value To Others, Get Money!…And carry on to living larger lives!
Wow! – When I discovered these folks….I knew immediately I was in, even if it took time to actually get All-In….I see and feel the vision….and I want to share it with others who need a boost….good people banged up by other often-broken people using outmoded and often broken systems that dis-empower instead of Empower! – To walk away from anyone near & dear to me and let the bankrupt and corrupt ways win…Is not an option!
Get Empowered!
I refused to give in that much….and so I got in with Empower Network working within myself, benefitting from all the major shifts (all good, even though challenging)…So that my dearest and I could live the good empowered lives we deserve!…
And that is what being a Dad is about…Being a parent is challenging, no ands if or buts about…..buttons get pushed…tears flow,….and so too does Joy! – Got to Let Love Rule!
And that is so tied to my Why? My purpose….to empower others to live the lives they deserve…to teach a better way, if you will? – What better way to do that than lead by example….
Think of all the life’s lessons ‘provided’ for the kids – There’s that word again…’Provide’….
The lesson of not giving up, self-belief, self-love, love for others, empathy & compassion….commitment & follow-through…and so on….sometimes parenting takes on a different shape than we may never have thought it would…and as soon as we’re ready to see, listen ….and Be – it will shine through! … Afterall, we’re social beings .
So Dad’s….and Moms…Parents! – When the going gets tough and I mean really tough…I know….and I also know that we’re not alone….if you want a better way…they’re available to us…when we’re ready….
It’s that simple…. The journey to a life so much better for our families…and us
And when I thanked David Sharpe for his example of ‘not quitting’…from one Dad to another….he shook my hand and said….”That’s who he does it for!” – And the way he said it as he looked me in the eye….I knew I was in the right place with the right people…. What David S does with his success and what he gives back, as with Habitat For Humanity – and the journey he went through to turn his life around and reconnect with daughter is/was Immense ….
Connections
This is a community – filled high on friendship and low on judgement….and that is what makes it so successful, and why I am so happy to be a part of it….And also what has enabled me to wake up, get out of my own way…And begin my new journey of ‘Releasing My Inner Badassness’ – a life long process I know, and one I’m proud to share with my kids, and as a part of their growth and development …Evolution as Human Beings!…Thier Journeys Not Just Mine.
So….Struggling Dads…it would be great to see ya’ll here…reconnecting with your inner power(s)….and becoming more Empowered Dads….providing the dream(s) that never went away, just maybe Lost for a bit, or hadn’t found ‘Home’ yet…the inner homes!
Thanks for Not Quitting and For Sharing Your Badassness….
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– Ray du Monde – *(Light Up The World – Take Action Now & Share Your Inner Badass!)
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