4 ways to attract success
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Four ways to attract success
Positive psychology explains at success in life we can attract.
How to make us more likely to succeed, the responsibility of the author of several books Philippe Gabilliet.
Success – it is our desire and the object of superstition.
It is believed that there are two types of happiness babies: those who “collects” the opportunities simply because they were born under a lucky star, and those for whom success just fell from the sky (winning the lottery, a change took place in the fate of the meeting, inexplicably healed … ).
Psychologist Ph. Galliot believes it is necessary to postulate that this supplement, and otherwise we will remain at the level of magic and fatalism. “In fact, sometimes accidentally successful, but there are different kind of success that can be” tame “and to cultivate, – says the expert. – Such a success is available to all. “
It supported and psychologist Richard Wiseman’s from Great Britain Hertfordshire University, investigated the success factors. He has examined the lives of hundreds of successful people and found that there are two types of success: passive (such as winning the lottery) and psychological, which can be accessed through the will, consciously shaping personal position. The specialist also concluded that the second type of success to recover, so it psychologist calls “the long-term success.”
According to R. Wiseman, both types of success has five components: Sava ILA Kis meeting (right person the right moments), an essential part of timely information, openness to innovation (ability to gain positive experiences), and unexpected application fateful event, the other thrust of the normal life of the bed.
“If we want to extend the success – adjust Ph. Gabilliet – you need to prepare the soil in which the seeds of opportunity will develop and increase. “This will be possible only if we learn here these four things.
1. Pinch the task
” At launch it to the success generator, it must be programmed and adjusted depending on your chosen direction – argues psychologist. Then it will give meaning to those events that are happening with us and generate a success: it is our objective to ensure the generator work will allow us to discover it. “
Canadian psychologist Albert Bandura, The self-efficacy known for his concept, almost three decades ago, wrote: “Our human nature partly follow the personal values and norms, which we choose. Addition, the things we see her as a person, the value of a mechanism partly determined by our social development direction. “
So, if there is no clear intention in advance, and there is no long-term success. It does not mean that it is first necessary to plan everything in detail what sort of project. Rather, it comes need to understand their desires, to feel what direction we would like do to the further develop your life, what meaning to give it.
Positive intention – it is the quintessence of vital desires. And in order to find out, it is necessary to understand what gives us a sense of inner flowering, which can become the driving force of all life.
“What’s important to me? What do I need? What do I want? “- These are the issues that will form the basis of our way to success. Then everyone will have to specify your expectations, give the body its intentions: to start writing a blog, to education, to meet with those whose desires are similar to your own.
2. open up to the world
It means the inner readiness to notice what is new, the maximum accept what is happening around you. It’s common sense to be attentive and keep watch. It allows us to capture interesting information instantly see new acquaintance prospects directed energy in a certain direction.
In this way, we many times to increase your chances, irrespective feel have contributed to the emergence of these options or not. Them a break from time to time, during which the Logging out, we let you work your intuitive powers and take away from the success of the enemy – the routine and automatic thinking.
3. Take advantage of misfortunes
“Even the greatest happiness does not protect babies from the blows of fate and unexpected trouble, but they are paying the efficient and effective” process “their failures – further explains psychologist. – Resisting the anger, sadness or discontent, they’re looking for reasons for failure in itself, taking into consideration the circumstances and find a fair assessment of their failure finally gives “recycling”.
At first these people and the inevitable random things separate from what they (at least partly) the responsible. “Paradoxically, they can detect its failure at the heart of success in their early stages, after all, almost everything could always be worse,” – holds Ph. Gabilliet.
Finally, they ask themselves in such a situation, the only important question – what can I learn from this unpleasantness? Or, in other words, how and under what conditions a whole can transform into something positive? How do I need to do now that the situation in a way favorable to tilt? What did I learn from this event? How can I take advantage of this situation, I would accept that new people, just to make new information, open up new worlds?
The last phase is a new chance to start a generator that would enable it to open up new doors, to find other ways. To engage in new business, to resume relations with the previous acquaintances, receive and send invitations, collect the information you were exciting theme … Each entry has the same new wind into your world and gives your new ingredients for success, however, called it – a timely meeting, the essential information, a new world of unexpected request …
4. To be a mascot for others
“Success – than the other, – says Ph. Gabilliet. – The wider our personal network of contacts, as many of those with whom we are familiar, the more likely that we Fortuner. Wisemans states: successful people “characterized expects that relations with others will be fruitful.” Of course, with the condition that exploring the relationship we are showing kindness and care for other people, we can provide a service expecting rewards acquaintance might otherwise end up in a selfish contact list addition.
That’s why in addition to the same communication, we need self-giving energy, in other long-term success of the base will not help. It means that we have to make other charms, to bring them success.
“Love, knowledge and success have something in common. They create order to the continuously circulate in society, joined by the people and the development of human values. – Says psychologist. – In order to bring her success to others, devote sufficient time and attention, be prepared to listen. Provide important information for the interviewer, opening up new opportunities to the field, but also to be close to failure to help make it change for the better chances. “
To show sympathy and solidarity, we not only assure yourself of future successes stocks, but also give meaning to their lives, giving them depth, denying infamous phrase “Man to man – the wolf.”
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