The little things matter
Restored from the Empower Network archive (2011–2017), lightly edited to meet our current advertising standards. Views are the original author’s.
I was recently reading an interesting study made in Germany.
I do not remember the exact numbers. But what I remember was that a large number of young men live a single life. When asked why is that, the most of them answered:
“I do not feel I can offer my partner something desirable.”
That was not the exact answer, but something along these lines. And when asked again why they feel so, they answered:
“My income is not high enough to support a family.”
I am not a relationship expert, a dating guru or anything along these lines. Actually I screwed up many times already. I got divorced once. I split with with my girlfriend and now I can see my daughter just every two weeks for couple of hours ( I want to change it for more though). I had some short term affairs. As far as I can remember I never put money between me and my girl. And the money was short many times.
I am single at the moment and read some stuff about dating regularly. I love it. There is so much psychology behind dating, so much to learn. But none of the teachers, gurus, relationship and sex experts talk about money. Quite contrary. They all seem to agree that money has nothing to do with attraction and sex.
Of course you have a slightly better chance, when being a man, if you can show status and financial abundance. But am I going to look for a girl who is looking for a guy with status and money? Hmm, probably not. And I believe most of the girls out there do not look as much for that anyway. They look for confidence, passion, life purpose, adventure, good sex, good conversations, long walks along the river, may be a romantic dinner or just a coffee with a cake, a good friend etc.
I might be wrong. I know. But that is what I found so far.
I also read somewhere that there is a very high number of couples quarreling regularly over bills. Well reality gets us right? We can be in love, but when money is short, than money is short.
I believe if a couple is strong together nothing will break them. There is a solution to every problem. And sometimes money problems only cover completely different relationship problem that was not brought to light. It is sometimes easier to talk about money then about something deeper.
And one more thing. The little things matter.
I found this great commercial vid today about a dad raising his daughter. The vid went viral. It is about little things that matter in any relationship.
Cheers,
Maroschief.