Lessons In Letting Go and Loving Yourself

Lessons In Letting Go and Loving Yourself

I almost always blog/vlog from experience, unless I am sharing someone else who inspires me…

So with that said, I wanted to Share this Lessons In Letting Go and Loving Yourself

That can Be People, Work Places, Relationships, Behaviours..

ANYTHING that no longer serves us…

We have this Crazy idea that we have to be People pleasers...

I have witnessed this so much,

both from myself in the past and more recently

from  other people….

very often in the process of being a ‘People Pleaser’, we let people treat us

……Far Less than we Deserve….

So why Do we do this? and how can We Stop?

….Well – let me share with you how I managed to Let Go and Love Myself…

….and yes like anything in Life, its being a Work in Progress…..

…I used to be a Real People Pleaser…I mean  a REAL people pleaser…

Growing up with little self esteem and then going onto to be a Single Mum

..at times I was desperate to have friends….

hence I didn’t always like doing things, that my ‘friends’ were

doing, however I was so bothered/worried about being left out….

I would say “yes’… and go along and really feel uncomfortable….

Lessons In Letting Go and Loving Yourself

Other situations, I have  being bullied….

both as a teenager.. and then as an adult – not once, but twice….

In both situations as an adult I walked out…

…..eventually – wasn’t easy the second time

as there were extenuating circumstances – I share that story here..

Then there are relationships, friendships you have to let go of..

So back to my original question

How Do we Learn To Let Go?

• By learning to Love ourselves…
• By remembering we are Worthy…
• By Respecting Ourselves and knowing our own Boundaries
• Learning to Forgive Both Yourself and Others…

• By Empowering ourselves…. 

There are many ways of doing this……

I initially started by watching The Secret some 9 years ago…and then

7 years ago, having been bullied twice and going through a

very difficult time.. I finally walked away….

whilst that was a very tough time for me…

….it Taught me sooo much…

Since then I have worked on myself Every single day..

Practising Gratitude, 

Reading Empowering Material,
Listening to Empowering Material…

Switching Off Negative Material
(yes including News and newspapers)

These simple strategies have helped me – soooo much…

plus have learned so much more about myself…

I don’t put up with bad behaviour…

I have said goodbye to friends… who didn’t value me…

I have said goodbye to relationships, where I wasn’t being treated

as I knew I should be…

Remember – the way you treat

yourself is the signal you are sending to

The Universe and others…

of what you accept from others…

When we come away from a bad experience.. whether thats a friend treating you badly or a bad work experience, ask yourself

What can I learn from this? – I promise you, you will get answers..and sometimes (and this happened to me recently)… I didn’t even have to ask the question.. I got the answer anyway !! how cool is that !!

I hope this blog has helped you... Letting Go and Learning to Love Yourself..

Take it from someone who really had very little confidence and self esteem, when I was younger- You Can Do This… 🙂 

Helen