Reframe Yourself With a “To Be” Vision
Restored from the Empower Network archive (2011–2017), lightly edited to meet our current advertising standards. Views are the original author’s.
It may help you to have a few background remarks for understanding this post.
The first would be that I am spending time learning from Sasha Xarrian having purchased her Outrageous Mastery Trilogy, which I highly recommend, by the way. The last thing I picked up on from her before coming to write this post was how helpful it can be to use reframing as a tool when feeling “up to the gills” about something.
The second would be that one of my mentors, heroines, “sweet spot” examples in the blogging world is Erica of Erica dot Biz. I passed her on to my son this week and he perked up with an interest in doing something online after me repeatedly hitting my head against a brick wall the last couple of years. I was a little surprised at the blog post she had up that day (not that the post itself stirred his entrepreneurial blood) but really found some food for thought in one of the comments to the post. I did, I mean, I found the comment to be helpful to me.
The comment was from a family physician, a Dr. Conrad Linde. It wasn’t so much that I agreed that the Doctor’s comment was necessarily on point with regards to Erica, though it may have been, but I felt it realigned some things for me. In seeking more about him, I’m not sure he would agree with how I find it fits my line of thought here, but hopefully he will be glad he posted nonetheless.
It wasn’t until I was in my mid-fifties that I came to learn why I did not seem to have very many memories of my childhood and the ones I had seemed “loaded” with messages for me. I had often made the remark that I did not enjoy being a kid, that fell into place then also.
One other thing that makes sense (or better sense) to me now is my constant search to improve myself, basically to stop being how I am so much and be better, often just other.
Dr. Linde suggested that we consider shifting our attention sometimes. He suggests we may find our imbalance in having placed too much time, effort, focus on the physical; when by simply shifting the effort to better match that with our time, thought, effort, focus on our spirit; we lift attention from the “to do” list and put it on the “to be” list, and relax ourselves away from long held pain.
I’m going to direct quote Dr. Linde with the next three sentences: “The spirit has a “to be” list. The place where a person is on that list right now is who that person is. The as yet unfinished items on the list define who she will become.”
Those sentences gave me a pivot point as I would imagine he hoped they would for Erica. I have always found it important to contemplate who I would become. Anything that brightens that picture I pronounce good.
I don’t know about you (and I really would like to) but I could use a well thought out, well designed and defined “to be” list. I changed the word list to vision for the title of this blog. To me it immediately brightens every aspect of the prospect. And, that is my example of reframing.
Just one more reframing, and this seems to have come from my inner “being” earlier today, “today is Saturday, today is an awesome day!” What a surprise treat that has made all the difference in my feeling level today.
I still want to be great, love sharing with you and will blog again soon! anacarin