Getting Free From Frustration

Restored from the Empower Network archive (2011–2017), lightly edited to meet our current advertising standards. Views are the original author’s.

This post continues on with the How to Be Free of Frustration post that Steve Pavlina wrote on his website http://stevepavlina.com on September 18, 2012. Because he makes his work Public Domain, in this post I actually place his words followed by my comments in the post (this is different from the way I handled things in yesterday’s post).   I feel pretty sure to gain the most from this you will need to read yesterday’s post before reading this one.

If you are as anxious to free yourself from frustration as I am, especially then, take the time to set your stage to accomplish that very worthy task.  (anacarin)

Learn to Break FREE FROM FRUSTRATION

I am actually going to begin using Steve’s words a paragraph from yesterday’s and you will see for the first time his actual writing (unless you’ve been to his site already).

Break FREE FROM FRUSTRATION

“You are indeed capable of doing this. A good start is to realize that it’s rather silly for one part of your mind to resist another part of your mind. To create frustration, for instance, the part of your mind that observes must disagree with the part of your mind that predicts.”

Observation vs. Prediction

“If your observations and your predictions disagree, does it really make sense to have them do battle inside your mind?”

The italicized words that follow his seeking to understand how to be free from frustration are my brilliant repartee. (Keep in mind TIC with me is usually Tongue in Cheek).

Not sure. I am not getting this at all just yet.

“What’s the simplest way to end this inner conflict? How about if prediction surrenders to observation? Let observation win, let reality be what it is, let your observations be as they are, and decline to fight yourself if your predictions disagree. Instead, let your predictive abilities learn and grow in response to your latest observations. Don’t cling to inaccurate predictions.”

Break FREE FROM FRUSTRATION

That went so fast as to make me suspicious. AND, Abraham teaches me to not buy into “what is” if I got them right. But declining to fight sounds nice and agreeable and helpful. What must I do next? I may as well get this settled now. There is no question enough of my life has been chewed up with that truly nasty frustration that more than makes me want to chew nails, but rather drive my head into nails.

“When you allow yourself to wallow in frustration, you’re continuing to wage war between prediction and observation. And wars of this nature have a tendency to self-perpetuate. This means that you’ll continue to find new sources of conflict even as old ones dry up. As long as you believe that it’s okay for prediction and observation to fight, your mind will continue to feed the battle with fresh troops, ammo, and supplies.”

I don’t think I ever wallow in frustration, I truly war with it and at it. I am miserable and so must everyone around me be (mainly God — I know He doesn’t get caught up). I do get how to self-perpetuate off one frustration to any and all others I can remember. So, how do I end this battle to be free from frustration and remember to keep it ended?

Understand What You Must Do to Be Free From Frustration

“When you realize that this conflict is pointless, which indeed it is, then you can consciously end it. To do this, one side must surrender, and the losing side must be prediction. Otherwise you’ll just fall further out of alignment with truth, and you’ll attract even greater frustrations as you widen the gap between prediction and observation. It’s better to correct your predictive errors when the fighting isn’t so intense.”

OK. I’m dealing once again with my understanding of getting free from frustration in line with what Abraham says and how I am relating all of this together. To make prediction, (and I note they never name that imagination, as well) the losing side must make “what is” the victor. I know Abraham says it is all done, it is the past — what else? I’m sure that focusing on “what is” is never to get into alignment, so right now my challenge is to get that clear in my mind.

Surrender

Surrender to be Free from Frustration

“Once you surrender, both sides will put down their weapons, and the fighting will end. Instead of feeling frustrated, now you can start to vibe with acceptance… and eventually, with peace and flow and happiness.

As you continue to surrender the unwinnable battles of frustration, you’ll gain access to even more resourceful vibes. When your predictive abilities and your observational abilities cease fighting, you have more resources to devote to your creative abilities. Instead of having your creativity diverted to the conflict, you can create what you desire instead.

Resisting your observations is not a path to manifesting your desires. You can’t create if you deny what you’ve already created. You can’t elevate your vibe if you won’t accept what you’re attracting with your current vibe.”

Now, see here? This is still familiar as “what is” and definitely the key to what he’s talking about here. And, I have to say this both seems convoluted to me while making imminent sense. Crazy!  Does that ever happen with the rest of you folks?  The duality!

“If you want to speed ahead even faster, then allow yourself to love what you’ve already created. No matter how nasty it looks, love it like a frog prince. Find some way — any way — to see the beauty behind the apparent ugliness.”

What a beautifully written paragraph! What a superb idea. I’ve definitely got a frog prince, but I also want to speed through this as quickly as I can.

Resisting Scarcity

“When I was broke and in debt many years ago, initially I resisted that outcome. With each new year, I grew ever more determined to resist my observed reality… and to recommit myself to creating wealth instead. After a while I had to conclude that this internal battle wasn’t working. I kept losing money for 5 years straight. Resisting brokeness with all my might did not summon abundance into my life. Resisting brokeness just made brokeness a bigger and bigger part of my reality. Eventually I had to sell off most of my possessions, lose my office, and lose my apartment. The more I fought against being broke, the more broke I became.”

The more I fight against being a loser and negative the more loser like and negative I become. I need to say, “game over!”

“Finally I came to my senses. I recognized that resisting brokeness was draining my creative energies, leaving  me with little power to create and experience what I actually desired. While my predictions were fighting my observations, I simply didn’t have the inner resources available to create what I desired.”

This is the wisdom I need and hopefully, now, am humbled enough by my experiences to understand, take in, apply and claim victory with!  To be free from frustration –ah, freedom!

Claim Victory — Free from Frustration

“And so I gave up and surrendered. I stopped fighting. I acknowledged and accepted my utter brokeness. I let myself wallow in it, like I was taking a bath in a tub full of broke.“

Full immersion. I get it. I have to use a different illustration, however. My imagination is stubbornly literal and at my size and level of brokeness I need to borrow a water tank.

“I declared prediction’s unconditional surrender, and I proclaimed observation the final winner of this years-long war. My many attempts to create wealth were clearly not working, nor were they ever likely to work. The goals, projects, actions, and attitudes that I predicted would lead to wealth and success had taken me in the exact opposite direction. It was an extraordinary failure, one of my life’s biggest. Finally instead of resisting this observation, I celebrated it. What a spectacular failure it was!”

Free from frustration!  I’m not one much on celebrations, and I’ve always tended to take life much too seriously, but conquering this is an immense achievement — one of the most spectacular of my life. I’m going to come up with something!

Need I mention, dear readers, there’s reward to follow — as I wrap this up tomorrow. But, of course, I want you to sleep well, so remember you can go to at any time. Being free from frustration has to be one of the greatest gifts of life to someone who has suffered helplessly at its hands up until this moment now!

Hey!  Now that you’re all done suffering, get yourself a blog and share your victory with others.  Stay free from frustration.  Thank again, Steve Pavlina