Meditation Preparation for Sublime Sex

Restored from the Empower Network archive (2011–2017), lightly edited to meet our current advertising standards. Views are the original author’s.

LA offers an abundance of opportunities to meet other people, a variety of things to do and places to go. In fact, our lives are as congested as our freeways, and we often get stuck and feel like we are not going anywhere, So we try to fill ourselves with a hectic schedule in the hopes that we can fill that void.

We are afraid of quietude, aloneness and inactivity. We even make sure that our kids avoid doing nothing, and we cram their days with ballet classes, tap dancing, gymnastics, riding lessons and birthday parties leaving little or no time to be just be.

To feel fulfilled, we have to be doing something every spare minute of the day. We are on the “do” list all day, judging ourselves by what we do, never stopping for fear that our minds will be “thinking” again.

Every weekend might find us at another workshop, seminar, gathering. Searching, changing, trying everything under the sun. But under all this is a lack of commitment. We get bored and seek something new.

We find it impossible to commit to a practice, a person or even ourselves. So we run here and there, keep busy and never still our minds, until one day we run out of gas. We fear that doing nothing, saying nothing, thinking nothing will disintegrate our persona.

We fail to understand that when we learn to slow down and set aside our responsibilities, pressures, and sensory overload, we begin to experience inner peace. We become more efficient.

Relaxing does not mean recharging. Relaxation isn’t something we do willfully. It is something that we allow to happen.

Here is a simplified meditation for beginners. Initially do this just 3 times twice a day. (Exception: If you have health problems, please consult your doctor before attempting any yoga or mediation practice. Do not hold your breath if there is any doubt.)

Sit on the floor (preferably) with your legs crossed and back erect. Close your eyes, take a deep breath to the count of 4, through your nose, feeling your lungs and abdomen expand. Draw the breath to the nostrils. Hold your breath to the count of 16—do not strain. Exhale slowly through your mouth, to the count of 8, pulling your abdomen in toward the back of your spine.

There are variations of this breathing/meditation method, but this is the simplest version.

You may feel spacey, so please do not operate any machinery or drive after this. Just relax, enjoy the nothingness for a few minutes. That means, no cell phone or television for a short while. Think you can handle it?

Guys, this is the first step to enjoying marathon sex. You have to be able to meditate and breathe properly. Master the breath, find the place of inner peace, add a partner and you have tantra…well a very small part of tantra!

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