CHAPTER TWELVE<\/strong><\/p>\n Do-lt-Yourself Tranquilizers\u00a0that Bring Peace of Mind<\/strong><\/p>\n Worry affects the circulation, the heart, the glands, the whole Trainqulizer drugs, which have become so popular, bringing peace of mind, and calmness; they reduce\u00a0or eliminate nervous symptoms by an \u201cumbrella action.\u201d Just as an\u00a0umbrella protects us from the rain, the various tranquilizers erect a\u00a0psychic screen between us and disturbing stimuli. Tranquilizers work The disturbing stimuli are still there. We are still able to recognize them\u00a0intellectually, but we do not respond to them emotionally. I might add that today\u2019s medical community seems far too quick For the person who suffers from severe anxiety or compulsive For a great many people-probably you too-neither drugs nor Overresponse Is a Bad Habit That Can Be Cured<\/strong><\/p>\n Let us suppose that as you read this, you are sitting quietly in your The point I wish to make is this. You do not have to answer the Get this mental picture clearly in your mind, for it can be quite See yourself sitting quietly, letting the phone ring, ignoring its signal,\u00a0unmoved by its command. Although you are aware of it, you no longer\u00a0mind or obey it. Also, get clearly in your mind the fact that the outside\u00a0signal in itself has no power over you, no power to move you. In\u00a0the past you have obeyed it, responded to it, purely out of habit. You\u00a0can, if you, wish, form a new habit of not responding.<\/p>\n Also notice that your failure to respond does not consist in doing The telephone ringing is a symbolic analogy to any and every Stress brought on by having too much to do-i.e., trying to do too How to Condition Yourself for Equanimity<\/strong><\/p>\n In much the same way that you automatically obey or respond to the\u00a0ring of the telephone, we all become conditioned to respond in a certain\u00a0way to various stimuli in our environment.<\/p>\n The word \u201cconditioning\u201d in psychologital circles grew out of However, after the process was repeated a number of times, the dog\u00a0would continue to salivate whenever the bell was rung, whether or not\u00a0food was immediately forthcoming. The dog had now become \u201cconditioned\u201d\u00a0to salivate at the mere sound of the bell. Its response made\u00a0no sense and served no good purpose, but it continued to respond in\u00a0the same way out of habit.<\/p>\n There are a great many \u201cbells,\u201d or disturbing stimuli, in our various\u00a0environmental situations, to which we have become conditioned to\u00a0and to which we continue to respond out of habit, whether or not the\u00a0response makes any sense. But, my friend, you are not a poor, dumb\u00a0animal who must go through life so unwittingly and easily manipulated\u00a0and controlled. You are a human being with creative powers, with the\u00a0power of rational thinking, with the ability to stand up on your hind\u00a0legs and assert yourself. You must decide to be \u201cworked like a dog\u201d or\u00a0to be your own person, to be controlled or to be in control. This is a\u00a0decision with far-reaching consequences. It is the answer to the question, Many people learn to fear strangers, for example, because of In counseling sales professionals who are \u201cfrozen\u201d and avoiding Still another person may respond to crowds, closed spaces, open How to Extinguish Conditioned Responses<\/strong><\/p>\n We can extinguish the conditioned response if we make a practice It You Cannot Ignore the Response, Delay It<\/strong><\/p>\n In the process of extinguishing a conditioning, a person may find it difficult,\u00a0especially at first, to totally ignore a bell, especially if it is rung\u00a0unexpectedly. In such instances you can accomplish the same final\u00a0result-extinction of the conditioning-by delaying your response.<\/p>\n A woman, whom we will call Mary S., became anxious and ill at \u201cRemember Scarlett O\u2019Hara in Gone with the Wind?\u201d I asked her. Delaying the response breaks up and interferes with the automatic Mary S. extinguished her conditioned fear of crowds by delaying Relaxation Erects a Psychic Screen, or Tranquilizer<\/strong><\/p>\n It is well to get clearly in your mind the fact that our disturbed feelings\u00a0our anger, hostility, fear, anxiety, insecurity-are caused by our\u00a0own responses, not by externals. Response means tension.<\/p>\n Lack of\u00a0response means relaxation. It has been proved in scientific laboratory\u00a0experiments that you absolutely cannot feel angry, fearful, anxious,\u00a0insecure, unsafe as long as your muscles remain perfectly relaxed. All\u00a0these things are, in essence, our own feelings. Tension in muscles is a\u00a0preparation for action or a getting ready to respond. Relaxing muscles\u00a0brings about mental relaxation or a peaceful relaxed attitude. Thus,\u00a0relaxation is nature\u2019s own tranquilizer, which erects a psychic screen or Physical relaxation is a powerful disinhibitor for the same reason. Relaxation means no response. Therefore, in your daily practice Early in his speaking career, the editor of this book would go Learn to Use Pre-Performance Rituals\u00a0to Your Advantage<\/strong><\/p>\n In several different articles in various\u2019 issues of Golf Magazine, Dr. We have a saying in Psycho-Cybernetics training: \u201cCalm mind, And with that, we will meet again next time with chapter 12, Interested in your own copy? \u00a0Get it here<\/a><\/p>\n Start at the Beginning: \u00a0Psycho Cybernetics video book<\/a><\/p>\n And, always keep smiling with love and light,<\/p>\n Nancy Holtzen Work With Me and the Prosperity Team \u2013\u00a0Prosperity Formula<\/a><\/p>\n previous post: \u00a0self expression is not moral<\/a> Relax\u2026 \u00a0and take charge of your life. Here\u2019s the text from this video: CHAPTER TWELVE Do-lt-Yourself Tranquilizers\u00a0that Bring Peace of Mind Worry affects the circulation, the heart, the glands, the whole nervous system, and profoundly affects health. -Charles W Mayo Trainqulizer drugs, which have become so popular, bringing peace of mind, and calmness; they reduce\u00a0or […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":711,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[2,3],"tags":[392,393,394,395,396,4,6,397,8],"class_list":["post-245","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-empower-network","category-psycho-cybernetics","tag-conditioned-response","tag-cure-bad-habit","tag-do-it-yourself-tranquilizers","tag-equanimity","tag-peace-of-mind","tag-psycho-cybernetics","tag-self-image","tag-tranquilizer","tag-video-book"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/empowernetwork.com\/naho\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/245","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/empowernetwork.com\/naho\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/empowernetwork.com\/naho\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/empowernetwork.com\/naho\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/711"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/empowernetwork.com\/naho\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=245"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/empowernetwork.com\/naho\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/245\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/empowernetwork.com\/naho\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=245"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/empowernetwork.com\/naho\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=245"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/empowernetwork.com\/naho\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=245"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
\nnervous system, and profoundly affects health.
\n-Charles W Mayo<\/p>\n
\nbecause they greatly reduce, or eliminate, our own response to disturbing\u00a0outside stimuli. But tranquilizers do not change the environment.<\/p>\n
\nIn chapter 7 on happiness, we said that our own feelings do not
\ndepend on externals, but on our own attitudes, reactions, and
\nresponses. Tranquilizers offer convincing evidence of this fact. In substance\u00a0they reduce or tone down our overresponse to negative feedback.<\/p>\n
\nand liberal in resorting to drugs for every imaginable psychological\u00a0malady, from children\u2019s attention deficit disorder to adult anxiety. The\u00a0newest business of M.D. diagnosis and drug prescription via the\u00a0Internet is most disturbing.<\/p>\n
\nbehavior, Dr. Lucinda Bassett at the Midwest Anxiety Center has
\ndone some remarkable work perfectly in keeping with the principles\u00a0of Psycho-Cybernetics. I recommend her self-help materials and services,\u00a0including, as a starting point, her book From Panic to Power. The\u00a0author suffered from acute anxiety disorders beginning in childhood\u00a0and in 1981 was a full-blown agoraphobic. Using her own healing\u00a0process as a framework, supplemented with thousands of case histories,\u00a0she developed a program, expressed in her book, that helps even\u00a0those with severe anxieties reclaim their true personalities.<\/p>\n
\nadvanced anxiety treatment measures are needed; the do-it-yourself,\u00a0Psycho-Cybernetic tranquilizers you already possess are more than\u00a0sufficient, once you learn to use them.<\/p>\n
\nden. Suddenly, the telephone rings. From habit and experience, this is\u00a0a .signal or stimulus that you have learned to obey. Without taking\u00a0thought, without making a conscious decision about the matter, you\u00a0respond to it. You jump up from your comfortable seat and hurry to\u00a0the telephone. The outside stimulus has had the effect of \u201cmoving\u201d\u00a0you. It has changed your mental set and your position or self-determined\u00a0course of action. You were all set to spend the hour, sitting quietly\u00a0and relaxed, reading. You were inwardly organized for this. Now,\u00a0all this is suddenly changed by your response to the external stimulus\u00a0in the environment.<\/p>\n
\ntelephone. You do not have to obey. You can choose to totally ignore the\u00a0telephone. You can, if you choose, continue sitting quietly and relaxed,\u00a0maintaining your own original state of organization, by refusing to\u00a0respond to the signal.<\/p>\n
\nhelpful in overcoming the power of external stimuli to disturb you!<\/p>\n
\nsomething, or making an effort, or resisting or fighting, but in doing\u00a0nothing-in relaxation from doing. You merely relax, ignore the signal,\u00a0and let its summons go unheeded.<\/p>\n
\nother outside stimulus you might habitually give control over to and\u00a0now choose to very intentionally alter that habit. So-called road rage\u00a0is nothing more than the giving up control of your own emotional\u00a0state to an outside stimulus.<\/p>\n
\nmany things at once-is giving up control to the fax machine, the cell\u00a0phone, the e-mail messages, the person hovering in your office doorway.<\/p>\n
\nPavlov\u2019s well-known experiments where he \u201cconditioned\u201d a dog to
\nsalivate at the sound of a bell, by ringing it just before presenting food\u00a0to the dog. This procedure was repeated many times. First, the sound\u00a0of the bell. A few seconds later, the appearance of food. The dog\u00a0\u201dlearned\u201d to respond to the sound of the bell by salivating in anticipation\u00a0of the food. Originally, the response made sense. The bell signified\u00a0that food was forthcoming, and the dog got ready by salivating.<\/p>\n
\nhow can I get respect in a disrespectful world?<\/p>\n
\nparental admonitions to have nothing to do with strange people. \u201cDo\u00a0not accept candy from a stranger.\u201d \u201cDo not get into a car with a\u00a0stranger,\u201d and sp on. The response of avoiding strangers serves a good\u00a0purpose in small children. But many people continue to feel ill at ease\u00a0and \u00b7 uncomfortable in the presence of all strangers, even when they\u00a0know that they come as friends instead of foes. Strangers become\u00a0\u201dbells\u201d and the learned response becomes fear, avoidance; or the desire\u00a0to run away.<\/p>\n
\nthe task of \u201cprospecting\u201d by every imaginable ,excuse and contrivance,\u00a0I frequently uncovered this bit of programming grooved into their servo mechanism. In counseling men and women who are unable to\u00a0make new friends or meet and initiate relationships with members of\u00a0the opposite sex, I often uncovered this same bit of programming.<\/p>\n
\nspaces, persons in authority such as \u201cthe boss,\u201d by feelings of fear and\u00a0anxiety. In each case the crowd, the closed space, the open space, the\u00a0boss, or whatever acts as a bell that says, \u201cDanger is present, run away,\u00a0feel afraid.\u201d And out of habit, we continue to respond in the accustomed\u00a0way. We obey the bell. It is time to disconnect these bells.<\/p>\n
\nof relaxing instead of responding. We can, if we wish, just as in the
\ncase of the telephone, learn to ignore the bell and continue to sit quietly\u00a0and let it ring. A key thought that we can carry with us to use\u00a0whenever we are confronted by any disturbing stimulus is to say to\u00a0ourselves, \u201cThe telephone is ringing, but I do not have to answer it. \u00a0I\u00a0can just let it ring.\u201d This thought will key in to your mental picture of\u00a0yourself sitting quietly, relaxed, unresponsive, doing nothing, letting\u00a0the telephone ring unheeded. It will act as a trigger or clue to call up\u00a0the same attitude that you had when letting the telephone ring.<\/p>\n
\nease in the presence of crowds. She was able, by practicing the foregoing\u00a0technique, to immunize or tranquilize herself against the disturbing\u00a0stimuli on most occasions. However, occasionally, the desire\u00a0to run away, to flee, became almost overpowering.<\/p>\n
\n\u201cHer philosophy was, \u2018I won\u2019t worry about that now. I\u2019ll worry about\u00a0it tomorrow.\u2019\u201d She was able to maintain her inner equilibrium and\u00a0effectively cope with her environment in spite of war, fire, pestilence,\u00a0and unrequited love by delaying the response.<\/p>\n
\nworkings of conditioning.\u00a0\u201dCounting to ten\u201d when you are tempted to become angry is\u00a0based on the same principle and is very good advice, if you count\u00a0slowly and in fact actually delay the re~ponse, rather than merely holding\u00a0in your angry shouting or desk pounding. The response in anger\u00a0consists of more than shouting or desk beating. The tension in your\u00a0muscles is a response. You cannot feel the emotion of anger or fear if\u00a0your muscles remain perfectly relaxed. Therefore, if you can delay
\nfeeling angry for ten seconds, delay responding at all, you can extinguish\u00a0the autortiatic reflex.<\/p>\n
\nher response. When she felt that she simply had to run away, she would\u00a0say to herself, \u201cVery well, but not this very minute. I will delay leaving\u00a0the room for two minutes. I can refuse to obey for only two minutes!\u201d<\/p>\n
\numbrella between you and the disturbing stimulus.<\/p>\n
\nIn the last chapter we learned that inhibition results from excessive\u00a0negative feedback, or rather from our over response to negative feedback.<\/p>\n
\nof relaxation, you are learning disinhibition as well as providing yourself\u00a0with nature\u2019s own do-it-yourself tranquilizer, which you can take\u00a0with you into your daily activities. Protect yourself from disturbing\u00a0stimuli by maintaining the relaxed attitude.<\/p>\n
\nthrough a series of rituals to \u201cget up\u201d for the pending performance,\u00a0including pacing around, without realizing it, adding considerable\u00a0physical tension to his body. Later in his career, he could often be\u00a0observed stretched out casually in a chair, even lying on a couch in a\u00a0room immediately prior to his time on stage, looking to the observer\u00a0to be completely disinteres\u2019ted in the upcoming task. While he still\u00a0went through certain mental rituals to ready himself for the performance,
\nhe did so in a physically relaxed manner. You too can learn to be
\nmotivated, to be energized, to be ready for peak performance without\u00a0being tense and anxious.<\/p>\n
\nRichard Coop, author of the book Mind Over Golf, has advised players\u00a0to briefly step back from a shot if they feel negative thoughts boiling\u00a0up, and to use some physical ritual to regain calm control and reset\u00a0their concentration. It may be adjusting their glove\u00b7 or tapping their\u00a0club on the ground. He also teaches developing your own personal\u00a0preshot routine, as the best way to keep stray thoughts from invading\u00a0your mind in the middle of your swing. \u201cBottom-line,\u201d Dr. Coop\u00a0writes, \u201cgood players have a consistent routine and poor players don\u2019t.\u201d<\/p>\n
\ncalm body; calm body, calm mind.\u201d It doesn\u2019t matter which end of the\u00a0thread you start with, physical or mental relaxation, the result is the same.\u00a0The trick is to develop a \u201cpre-shot routine\u201d for whatever you do\u00a0that calms and relaxes, not heightens anxiety.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n
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