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That is one question you did not want your parents asking you when you were a kid. The real question is what can we as parents and grandparents do to help guide our children down the right path? Or what can we as business people do to guide the people on our team?<\/p>\n

I remember my dad often saying, \u201cIf there\u2019s one thing I\u2019m gonna teach you kids, it\u2019s to be honest.\u201d Well, all eight of us kids have grown up pretty well. My dad and mom had a clear vision of the values they wanted to impart to their offspring.<\/p>\n

It starts there. What are your values and how do you teach your children to go down a similar path while pursuing their own dreams? I think Dad had it right when he emphasized honesty as the most basic core value. Everything else stems from this, this and integrity.<\/p>\n

To be successful in life and in business requires that you have a reputation based on integrity. It must be built from learning how to tell the truth and how to stick to it in the most difficult of times.<\/p>\n

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\u201cWhoever is careless with the truth in small matters cannot be trusted with important matters.\u201d \u2013 Albert Einstein<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Let\u2019s start with basics. The dictionary defines integrity as \u201cthe steadfast adherence to a strict moral or ethical code.\u201d Boy, that\u2019s a mouthful. What does that really mean?<\/p>\n

Modern day interpretation:<\/span><\/p>\n

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\u201cReal integrity is doing the right thing, knowing that nobody\u2019s going to know whether you did it or not.\u201d \u2013 Oprah Windfrey<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

From ancient times:<\/span><\/p>\n

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\u201cIt\u2019s so simple really: If you say you\u2019re going to do something, do it. If you start something, finish it.\u201d \u2013 Epictetus (Greek philospher, 55AD \u2013 135 AD)<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

You\u2019ll notice that from ancient times to modern day interpretation, the advice is essentially the same. Core values don\u2019t change.<\/p>\n

I really like what Barbara De Angelis has to say about integrity. I\u2019m going to look at this from the point of view of how integrity affects your business. Barbara has broken it down into 5 points: \u201cLiving with integrity means:<\/p>\n

Not settling for less than what you know you deserve in your relationships.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Over my 35 years in home-based businesses I\u2019ve seen people trying to get anybody they can into their business. They were operating from a lack perspective. They needed<\/em><\/span> somebody, anybody to join with them so they could get started.<\/p>\n

The problem with this is having people join you who don\u2019t share your core values. If they don\u2019t value you and what you have to offer, they will not do anything in their business at all.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s where it is so important to place a high value on yourself. Don\u2019t let just anybody join you. They have to want it for themselves. You want to build a relationship from the very beginning based on value. You deserve it and so do they.<\/p>\n

Asking for what you want and need from others. <\/strong><\/h3>\n

Ever go along blindly following somebody because they were successful? I\u2019ve found (at least for me) that I have to have some understanding of what I\u2019m doing. What comes next? How do I do this?<\/p>\n

In business and everyday life we want to find a mentor, someone who is already successful at doing whatever it is you want to accomplish on your own. It must be someone who is willing to help you. You may need to pay for their time, take them to lunch, or hire a coach.<\/p>\n

\nMany of the answers we need for those of us in Empower Network<\/a> are to be found in our company products. The answers are there. We just have to look. However, if you have looked and can\u2019t find the answers, then it\u2019s time to ask for what you want and need.<\/p>\n

Speaking your truth, even though it might create conflict or tension. <\/strong><\/h3>\n

Here we are back to honesty. There is a deeper level to it here though. There are times when your truth just doesn\u2019t coincide with others truth. You find yourself in situations where you must stand firm no matter what happens.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve found myself in this situation. It was really difficult. I had to do some serious thinking about what I was willing to do and\/or willing to accept. In my case I chose to leave a job I loved because there were certain things which just crossed the line, my line of ethics and values. I was unwilling to compromise my core values.<\/p>\n

You may run into this in your business. Someone may ask you to buy their way in. Someone else may want you to be making phone calls for them. Another may want you to give a presentation to their family and friends at their house.<\/p>\n

My truth would have me saying, \u201cWhoa there now! That\u2019s not the way I do business. I cannot help you with those things.\u201d If they persisted, I can stand firm in the knowledge of my truth and tell them, \u201cPerhaps we aren\u2019t a good fit.\u201d<\/p>\n

Behaving in ways that are in harmony with your personal values.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

First off, I go back to Do you really know what your core personal values are? If not, I suggest you take the Passion Test. I\u2019ve gone through Janet Bray Attwood\u2019s course to become a facilitator. It really helps you get to the bottom of things.<\/p>\n

Our priorities change as we go through life, so you will want to take the test over and over again to see if anything has changed for you.<\/p>\n

Knowing these makes things so much simpler. Have you ever felt at odds with doing something particular? Usually it\u2019s because there is something about it that does not resonate with what you truly believe.<\/p>\n

Listen to yourself carefully. Start asking yourself questions to see if you can identify what feels wrong about it. When you do, you may find that it is a simple thing which can be easily remedied. You may need to ask for certain concessions.<\/p>\n

Dave Wood illustrated this one time when he was describing how to build your dream. The example he gave was of a young man who was able to explain exactly what he wanted to achieve. Unfortunately there was just something holding him back. He felt resistant to actually working for his dream. It was only when it was pointed out that he had not included tithing in his dream that it be came clear. Tithing was essential to his faith. Without it, he could not move forward and become successful.<\/p>\n

What is holding you back from building your business? Could it be that you are resistant to becoming successful because of a lack of tithing or whatever it is that is essential\u00a0to you? It doesn\u2019t even have to be a big thing. Taking massive action must be in harmony with your personal values for you to succeed.<\/p>\n

Making choices based on what you believe, and not what others believe.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Here is where I ask you to be your true authentic self. If that means you have to change your life around in ways you never expected, well, then that\u2019s what you need to do\u2026. in baby steps. Make one new choice based solely on what you believe is true for you. For example: I am one of those people who was always willing to help other no matter what it did to my schedule. I became burned out. I had to learn to say no instead of yes when others asked for help. I had to learn to honor myself, to realize that I had value without always doing.<\/p>\n

You will find people in business who do this. They will set up your website, create graphics for you, make copies, whatever they think will help you get going on your own. They push themselves into a corner where their team will always expect this of them. They will believe that you will do whatever they want so they don\u2019t have to do it themselves.<\/p>\n

Not a good place to be. You want your team to be capable of building their own business. You want them to be able to teach and guide their own team without you doing it for them. If you made choices based on what others believe or expect of you, then you will not only be setting them up for failure, you will be tearing yourself down.<\/p>\n

Integrity<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cLiving with integrity means:<\/p>\n

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  • Not settling for less than what you know you deserve in your relationships.<\/li>\n
  • Asking for what you want and need from others.<\/li>\n
  • Speaking your truth, even though it might create conflict or tension.<\/li>\n
  • Behaving in ways that are in harmony with your personal values.<\/li>\n
  • Making choices based on what you believe, and not what others believe.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

    You Did What With Who? You won\u2019t have to worry about that if you choose to stay in integrity with your authentic self.<\/p>\n

    What will you do now?<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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