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Lessons In Letting Go and Loving Yourself<\/h2>\n

I almost always blog\/vlog from experience, unless I am sharing someone else who inspires me\u2026<\/span><\/span>
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\nSo with that said, I wanted to Share this\u00a0Lessons In Letting Go and Loving Yourself<\/strong><\/span><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

That can Be People, Work Places, Relationships, Behaviours..<\/em><\/span>
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\nANYTHING that no longer serves us\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n


\nWe have this Crazy idea that we have to be People pleasers.<\/strong><\/em>..<\/span><\/p>\n


\nI have witnessed this so much,<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

both from myself in the past and more recently<\/span><\/p>\n

from \u00a0other people\u2026.<\/span><\/p>\n

very often in the process of being a \u2018People Pleaser\u2019, we let people treat us<\/span><\/p>\n


\n\u2026\u2026Far Less than we Deserve\u2026.<\/span><\/p>\n

So why Do we do this? and how can We Stop?<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

\u2026.Well \u2013 let me share with you how I managed to Let Go and Love Myself<\/strong><\/em>\u2026<\/span>
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\n\u2026.and yes like anything in Life, its being a Work in Progress\u2026..<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n


\n\u2026I used to be a Real People Please<\/strong><\/em>r<\/span>\u2026I mean \u00a0a REAL people pleaser\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

Growing up with little self esteem and then going onto to be a Single Mum<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

..at times I was desperate to have friends\u2026.<\/span><\/p>\n

hence I didn\u2019t always like doing things, that my \u2018friends\u2019 were<\/span><\/p>\n

doing, however I was so bothered\/worried about being left out\u2026.<\/span><\/p>\n


\nI would say \u201cyes\u2019\u2026 and go along and really feel uncomfortable\u2026.<\/span><\/p>\n


\nLessons In Letting Go and Loving Yourself<\/span><\/h2>\n

Other situations, I have \u00a0being bullied\u2026.<\/span><\/p>\n

both as a teenager.. and then as an adult \u2013 not once, but twice\u2026.<\/span><\/p>\n


\nIn both situations as an adult I walked out\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n


\n\u2026..eventually \u2013 wasn\u2019t easy the second time<\/span><\/p>\n

as there were extenuating circumstances \u2013 I share that story here..<\/span><\/p>\n


\nThen there are relationships, friendships you have to let go of..<\/span><\/p>\n

So back to my original question<\/span><\/p>\n


\nHow Do we Learn To Let Go?<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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  • By learning to Love ourselves\u2026<\/span><\/em><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/li>\n
  • By remembering we are Worthy\u2026<\/span><\/em><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/li>\n
  • By Respecting Ourselves and knowing our own Boundaries<\/span><\/em><\/em><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/li>\n
  • Learning to Forgive Both Yourself and Others<\/span>\u2026<\/em><\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
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    • By Empowering ourselves\u2026.<\/span><\/span><\/em>\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n


      \nThere are many ways of doing this\u2026\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n


      \nI initially started by watching The Secret<\/em> some 9 years ago\u2026and then<\/span><\/p>\n


      \n7 years ago, having been bullied twice and going through a<\/span><\/p>\n

      very difficult time.. I finally walked away\u2026.<\/span><\/p>\n

      whilst that was a very tough time for me\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n


      \n\u2026.it Taught me sooo much\u2026
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      \nSince then I have worked on myself Every single day..<\/span><\/p>\n


      \nPractising Gratitude,\u00a0<\/span><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n


      \nReading Empowering Material,
      \nListening to Empowering Material\u2026<\/span><\/em>
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      \nSwitching Off Negative Material <\/span><\/em>
      \n(yes including News and newspapers)<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

      These simple strategies have helped me \u2013 soooo much\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

      plus\u00a0have learned so much more about myself\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

      I don\u2019t put up with bad behaviour\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n


      \nI have said goodbye to friends\u2026 who didn\u2019t value me\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n


      \nI have said goodbye to relationships, where I wasn\u2019t being treated<\/span><\/p>\n

      as I knew I should be\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n


      \nRemember \u2013 the way you treat<\/span><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

      yourself is the signal you are sending to<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

      The Universe and others\u2026<\/span><\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

      of what you accept from others\u2026<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n


      \nWhen we come away from a bad experience.. whether thats a friend treating you badly or a bad work experience, ask yourself<\/span><\/p>\n

      What can I learn from this? \u2013 I promise you, you will get answers..and sometimes (and this happened to me recently)\u2026 I didn\u2019t even have to ask the question.. I got the answer anyway !! how cool is that !!<\/span><\/p>\n

      I hope this blog has helped you...\u00a0Letting Go and Learning to Love Yourself.<\/span><\/strong>.<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

      Take it from someone who really had very little confidence and self esteem,<\/span><\/em> when I was younger- You Can Do This\u2026 \ud83d\ude42\u00a0<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

      Helen<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

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