{"id":118,"date":"2015-11-18T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2015-11-18T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/empowernetwork.com\/helenlingard\/i-chose-a-hug-what-do-you-chose\/"},"modified":"2026-07-27T18:01:47","modified_gmt":"2026-07-27T18:01:47","slug":"i-chose-a-hug-what-do-you-chose","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/empowernetwork.com\/helenlingard\/i-chose-a-hug-what-do-you-chose\/","title":{"rendered":"I Chose A Hug | What Do You Chose"},"content":{"rendered":"
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I Chose A Hug | What Do\u00a0You Chose<\/h2>\n


\nThere are so many ways to show Love\u2026show we care\u2026.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

I am some who doesn\u2019t like shaking hands.. haven\u2019t for a long time\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

Albeit if I go for an interview, I won\u2019t hug then\u2026 No Ill shake hands lol\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

But otherwise I give hugs\u2026You can also say I chose Love..<\/span><\/p>\n

Because I do\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

By the same token I would much rather spread Love than anything else\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

and of course what you give out \u2013 you get back.. in one way or another\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

And No not everyone wants a hug and I know that\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0Sorry I don\u2019t care\u2026 I give hugs anyway\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

I have never had someone \u2018pull away\u2019 yet\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

Yes i\u2019ve had \u2018wet hugs\u2019 much like a \u2018wet handshake\u2019 but thats Ok<\/span><\/p>\n

I Chose A Hug \u2013 What Do\u00a0You Chose<\/h2>\n


\nI don\u2019t take it personally\u2026<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Forget Shaking hands etc\u2026 I like a Hug\u2026.<\/span><\/p>\n

What does a Hug say \u2013 \u2018I Care\u2019..\u2019I care about you\u2019..and I do\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

Thats probably why I was a nurse.. because I do care\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

So when I saw this Post from the Ripple Kindness Project\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

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I Chose A Hug<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

I\u2019ve fallen on hard times, there is a lot going on.<\/span><\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

Things could be even worse and I really<\/span><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

hope they won\u2019t go South even more.<\/span><\/p>\n

The biggest thing I\u2019m struggling with is loving myself.<\/span><\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

In this turmoil, I\u2019m currently travelling back from visiting my daughter who lives with my sister at the moment.<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

I had a row with one of my family members while they were taking me to my next means if transportation.<\/span><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

While I was on the train I couldn\u2019t hold it in any longer and started to <\/span>sob a little.<\/span><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

A woman that I didn\u2019t know asked me if I was ok. I told her I wasn\u2019t and that I didn\u2019t know how to fix everything anymore.<\/span><\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

She said: <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

\u201cDo you want a hug or an opportunity to tell your story? <\/span><\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

I chose the hug. <\/span><\/span><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

And she gave me a genuine, very big and long hug. <\/span><\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

Now I am on another train as she had to travel further, but it\u2019s very nice to know that there are little angels on our way. <\/span><\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

And that even though we are down and out, there is always someone who cares enough to give you a great big hug.<\/span><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

And I would also like to share the kindness of the family that is taking care of my daughter right now.<\/span><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

At times, it\u2019s very hard for me to accept their help, but still they keep on coming through. Even in the moments that I\u2019m struggling to pick up on the ways in which they are trying to help.<\/span><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Whats more \u2013 I have been here, and Im sure you have, where we may have a row with a family member\u2026and we feel like \u2018shit\u2019\u2026.<\/span><\/p>\n

For the record, I just reach out and say<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2018I\u2019m sorry\u2019<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

the relationship for me is Far more important than any pride I may have\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

If that doesn\u2019t work \u2013 I just continue –<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2018being there for them\u2019 \u2013 telling them I love them..<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

They \u2018usually\u2019 come round eventually \u2013 remember you can only control YOURSELF\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

You have no control over the other person\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

Life is Just too frickin\u2019 short\u2026<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

I could also relate to this guy saying \u2018Im struggling to love myself\u2019<\/span><\/p>\n

Oh Have I been there\u2026 having a rage inside me for the way \u2018things\u2019 turned out\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

I had to do work on \u2018forgiving\u2019 myself\u2026 which fortunately I\u2019ve come a long way\u2026still WIP !:)<\/span><\/p>\n

Its sooo important to love ourselves, to forgive ourselves\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

so yes I will always Chose A Hug \u2013 what will you chose<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

However \u2013 continue giving those hugs, those compliments, those smiles\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

In all honesty \u2013 we have no idea what anyone is going through\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

So Give Everyone the Best Version of You You can Do\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

and if you need a hug, I just simply say to someone \u2018I need a hug\u2019 and I<\/p>\n

usually get one !! \ud83d\ude42 or you could alway do what the guy in the video does\u2026<\/p>\n

Go On I Dare You \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n

Like this? Love it.. \u00a0I Chose A Hug \u2013 What do You Chose<\/strong><\/span><\/em>?<\/span><\/p>\n

Please share\/Comment and let me know..<\/span><\/p>\n

Would you like to share your stories\/Inspirations and help others? then check us out here\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

Helen<\/span><\/p>\n

To find the original of this post – go here..<\/span><\/p>\n

PS: if you are going through difficulties with family etc\u2026\u00a0<\/em>
\nTry this simple exercise, write out 10 things you love about that person..<\/em> think of them with love every day\u2026 and remember when we have problems with someone else, we need to work on OURSELVES\u2026<\/em><\/p>\n

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