Most of us know that failure is inevitable, yet when it happens we still act like the end of the world is upon us and have no idea how to deal with it.<\/p>\n
I have done this, only to realise that later on my perceived \u201cfailure\u201d was more like a blessing in disguise or had some kind of irrefutable lesson that would change the course of my life.<\/p>\n
Failure comes in all shapes and sizes. Failure can look like applying for jobs and facing constant rejection. Putting effort into a paper and receiving a poor grade. Cooking a delicious meal and leaving it in the oven for too long. Dieting or exercising and still unable to lose that extra weight. Failure can look like a whole lot of different things for a whole lot of different people.<\/p>\n
Have you ever gotten a bad hair cut and thought it was the end of the world? Failed a test and thought your academic career was over? Missed a promotion or kept being rejected by employers and felt that you\u2019d be broke forever or never advance in your career?<\/p>\n
One could say that none of these things are really the end of the world, and many of them can be easily overcome with focus, persistence, and determination. Yet in that moment, we just can\u2019t help our reactions. It just SEEMS like the end of the world. What\u2019s the point of TRYING so hard if we won\u2019t succeed? Doesn\u2019t it just feel like a helpless cause sometimes??<\/p>\n
I have faced these types of \u201cfailures\u201d many times\u00a0and I must admit each of these little perceived \u201cfailures\u201d got me pretty down in the dumps for days on end. In that time I was able to figure out some really amazing tools that helped me get out of the dumps and take some real life-changing action as a result.<\/p>\n
TOOLS FOR\u00a0DEALING WITH FAILURE<\/p>\n
Community.\u00a0<\/strong>This is probably the most important thing in the world. You need to be surrounded by good uplifting people and communities around you. We often like to associate with people who are failing worse than us because it somehow makes us feel better about ourselves\u2026 our ego\u2019s\u00a0get a payoff out of having\u00a0people that we can complain to and will understand our \u201cpains\u201d\u2026 but this is probably the WORST thing we can do for ourselves! We need to be surrounded by positive uplifting people who will listen to us and support us but also encourage us to get over it and KEEP GOING for our dreams! We need people that will get us\u00a0OUT of the habit of making excuses and complaining all the time. Excuses and complaints only cause more of what we don\u2019t want \u2013 failure.<\/p>\n Physical Activity.\u00a0<\/strong>If you read my first post about getting our of your comfort zone, you\u2019ll remember that I listed being active as an amazing tool for\u00a0motivation and comfort-zone-breaking. Physical activity\u00a0is also a great tool to use when dealing with failure as pushing your body can help release some of that negative energy. To take it a step further, physical activity outdoors is even more powerful because of it\u2019s connection with the next tool I\u2019m going to mention.<\/p>\n Nature.\u00a0<\/b>\u00a0Nature is incredibly healing. One of my favourite things to do when I\u2019m feeling like life is a little bleak is to head to the beach and take in the calming sights and sounds of the ocean. Not all of us have the luxury of being close to a beach or being in the appropriate weather for it, but most of us are close enough to walking trails or parks that we can\u00a0enjoy on weekends.<\/p>\n For daily doses of nature I go for short walks and have become obsessed with collecting plants around my apartment. I am out on my balcony every day caring for my pot plant garden, and in the winter I collect indoor plants such as Cacti. Just looking at a plant makes me feel better.<\/p>\n Music.\u00a0<\/b>Music is probably the most powerful healing source for me personally. I have a variety of music that I play off of my iPhone \u2013 everything from dance music to get me feeling energised and motivated to alternative rock and baroque classical music. Sometimes when I\u2019m \u00a0feeling sad I listen to melancholic music and cry my eyes out. This is actually really powerful because crying releases so much pent up negative energy and you always feel better afterwards.<\/p>\n Books & Audios.\u00a0<\/strong>Uplifting books and audios in the areas of self development and personal growth are amazing tools to have at your finger tips. Currently on my book list are empowering books such as \u201cAsk and it is Given\u201d, \u201cA Course in Miracles\u201d, and many others. Like wise there are many great audio\u2019s out there that are super empowering and motivational.<\/p>\n Meditation.\u00a0<\/strong>Going inward is often the best way one can really learn from their failures and balance their emotions. Some of us have voices in our heads that we just can\u2019t seem to silence, which is why I usually follow a guided meditation off of youtube or use music to induce myself into a meditative state. Likewise yoga or martial arts are very powerful tools which essentially mix meditation with exercise.<\/p>\n Gratitude & Prayer.\u00a0<\/strong>Not all of us are believers in prayer, but no matter what you believe in we can all be grateful for something. Sometimes when we fail we can\u2019t understand\u00a0why\u00a0<\/em>it is happening to us and what we have done to deserve it. Writing a list of what you are grateful for or stating it in a prayer is a great way to remind yourself of all the amazing things you have and raise your internal vibration in the process.<\/p>\n The most important thing for us to remember is that Failure is ONLY a perception and it only exists in our minds.<\/strong><\/p>\n I once heard a great quote on an audio series called \u201cYour Wish is Your Command\u201d and the quote went something like this:<\/p>\n When asked about creating the lightbulb, Edison was asked how it felt to fail at creating the first lightbulb so many times. Edison responded: \u201cI did not fail, but successfully found one thousand ways it would not work\u201d. <\/em><\/span><\/p>\n How have you dealt with failure? Comment or share below!<\/p>\n Most of us know that failure is inevitable, yet when it happens we still act like the end of the world is upon us and have no idea how to deal with it. 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